As I sat listening to the radio this morning, the dj said that a recent report shows that 83% of married couples are having affairs. 83%!!!! The dj said he would have expected maybe 40% at the most, but 83%? That's just insane.
What is it about our society that makes us to sex-crazed? Why do people even get married if they're just going to have affairs? Marriage is about spending the rest of your life with the ONE person you love. Yet 83% of married couples aren't happy with their partner? They still need to go have affairs.
And aside from the moral aspect of this issue, what about health risks? If you're in a marriage and you don't realize that your husband or wife is having an affair, you can so easily get an STD. If you think you're husband is the only man you've ever been with, and you know that he never had an STD, you feel fine. You probably don't use birth control if you want children. Yet you can be getting an STD from whomever your husband is cheating on you with.
83% is just an astounding number. I don't know where this study came from, since i just heard it on the radio, but I'm hoping that it does not have much validity. If 83 % of married couples are actually having affairs, that's just downright scary. 1 in 4 people have an STD, but if this statistic is true, I'm afraid that number will be a lot higher in forthcoming years.
i think when in a marriage, you want some new passion, that you might get from someone else, i dont condone it
But if this is the case, why get married in the first place? Why not remain single? I don't really see what is appealing about marriage if you're going to have an affair? Financial stability? Not living alone? Children? I don't know.
Part of the reason is that people no longer value marriage like they used too, now its just another thing you sign up for. The view of marriage in the past was that it was sacred, now its just another friendship just with benefits. I am sure that most people that have affairs do out of there free will , they obviously dont value their spouse.
I think a lot of people also get "duped", for a better word, into marriage because it's the social norm. A lot of people condemn bachelors and especially look at single females who are in their mid and early 30s as though there is something wrong with them that no one wanted to marry them.
Personally, I think marriage should be your own choice, I don't think anyone should pressure you into it because it's the social norm. If you aren't ready to commit, I don't think you should put up the front of wanting a committed, monogomous relationship.
It's funny, a girl I graduated HS with (a complete and utter tool), her dad cheats on her mom. And has been doing so for years. The mother is aware, as is the daughter. When one of my other friends asked her why her mom puts up with it and doesn't get a divorce, she said "my mom likes the lifestyle"...because they happen to be wealthy. I think that's pathetic. Not to mention, the girl now has SERIOUS relationship issues. Her last boyfriend cheated on her so many times it was disgusting, her currentboyfriend is an absolute loser...I think her parent's relationship instilled in her this belief that it's ok to cheat and it's ok to not be happy as long as you get tiffany's and nice things. I think that it leads to not only the mother but her children having a huge lack of self respect and a huge potential to settle for less than deserved.
Sad, I think if you're going to cheat, don't bother spending the money on the wedding, the engagement ring, the parties, the reception...if you wanna sleep around, that's your perogative, but not when there's a ring on someone else's hand that you gave to them.
I hope that whenever I get married that my relationship with my husband will be fufilling enough that we won't feel like we need to find it in someone else.
This is a subject that I have been pondering for years. One of my ex boyfriends and his girlfrined cheat on each other and they both know it, as well as everyone else, but yet they're still together. He tried to get back with me, but decided not to becuase he didn't want to hurt me. I didn't understand it, but I thought, at least he knows he's a hoe.
I really don't get it either. Ummmm...if you're going to screw around, don't get married. Oh, yeah, well now that I think about it, people are starting to move away from the marraige thing. It seems to be so unstable for most people. I'm not sure. I'm single, and I love it. People should get married with commitment on their minds instead of sex and learn to work it out.
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I agree with CyrahPlace. People have moved away from marriage as a part of life.
But can you blame people.. The tv has nothing but unhappy couples on it, which took out having affairs, you hear it in with celebraties in life, we have made it where it is ok for kids to have kids. I think it all comes down to that the family is not a unit anymore,
to survive both parents work, which leaves the kids to learn on their on, which if most are like mine, they watch alot of tv. I also think people are taking marriage serious, it is ok to divorce now, so why not. I have 2 girls and I feel they think it is ok to have kids without being married and it is ok to have affairs, Why? because everyone is doing it. We have it on tv, in the news, all the time. I have been married 23 yrs. I can't imagine having a affair. I love my husband and made that decide to be with him all those years ago and plan to stay with it.