Does anyone know what it is like to have a friend, date that friend, Somehow the relationship ends, and so does the friendship. Can you really have a friendship with someone you were 'intimate' with, or just dating whatever. I was 'dating' this girl, basically we just made out and then I kinda wanted more. I was thinking we should get to know eachother. Well, she got annoyed by me or something..I was too needy or maybe we just didn't knw eachother enough, regaurdless she wanted to be friends so we could get to know eachother first. Like I said, I wanted this to, but I didn't tell her until now she brought it up. So, friends, it didn't work to well. I was not even attached, but for some reason it just doesn't flow. It has just recently been cool, we hung out with other people around on saturday, and got along fine. No feelings or anything from either of us, so that helps. But for us we were barely frineds and barely had a relationship. With girls that you have long relationships with, usually ending worse because of attachment and heartache. Can you really be their friend? Is it a good idea to try right away? or wait? Maybe never again. It seems that for the most part it just never works...and it's not usually worth it cause the person that doesn't want to break up usualy remains attached until they are no long friends with the person. what do you all think?
-Hutch
Ive had friendships that turn relationships and some end and the others didnt. It happens. It all depends how strong the ppl are. I was very strong and could handle staying friends, but sometimes the other person isn't as strong. I have a very successful relationship with an ee and best friend. We dont hang out quite as much but we still keep contact and give each other advice and get together occationally. It can happen. the only thing you can do is try and if not, then let it go. ~<3~Love and be loved!~<3~
I have a policy of not dating anyone I am not at least casual friends with first, when you start out romantically and then try and be friends it's hard because often there was little basis behind your relationship besides physical attraction, if there is the relationship will endure and can make it if the other person is serious- the "let's just be friends" line is well known for it's relationship killing ability- mainly because zi doesn't mean that. If zi does however it can work out.
Although I would let it go, many people have policies on not dating exes for a reason.