She's a skeleton but she thinks she's fat. She looks in the mirror and she swears she's the ugliest person she's ever seen. She's gotten help for anorexia before.... it didnt work i guess. She still cringes at the sight of chocolate, and wont eat snacks that are above 50 calories... she swears she's okay but i see the way she saddens at the sight of herself. I understand why, because I thought that about myself once. What can I do? Whenever you tell her how great she looks, or how beautiful she is, she gets angry and goes off. She's a skeleton, but she would be so much more beautiful if she was the weight she was meant to be and saw herself the way we all do.. Beautiful.
She's a skeleton but...
By Beautifullyrescued - Posted on September 8th, 2007
We live in a society that promotes these negative images, the barbie like goal of skinniness. The portayal of fat as bad till the masses turn to skeliton. Some day mabey things will be better.
Were you anorexic too once? Just wondering, cuz you said that you thought that about yourself too once. Anorexia is such a strange disease. Its all in their head. I heard stories of people who tried not eating a few times, or just throwing up a few times before an event, and then it turns to an addiction, a disease. Just as addicting as drugs. Why is that? Pray for your friend. What she needs is Jesus to give her peace, because its not just an eating disorder. ITs associated with emotions, family, etc. Thats all she can turn to right now.
Ok, that's a bit presumptuous. Jesus is not going to help her, a treatment program will. And it's not a "strange disease;" that's making her into some sort of a science project. Have a little respect. This friend is not crazy, but part of her brain is not processing information properly.
Anorexia can also lead to death. Not in many cases, but in some, so please get your friend help FAST.
b-money
"A cactus is the opposite of a chair. In my house you can sit anywhere but there."
I don't think the author was attempting to portray this young girl as a science experiment; she was simply trying to emphasize the potency of anorexia. Every girl needs to be reminded that they are beautiful because they were created in the image of God. As far as Jesus not being able to help, He certainly came through for my mom when she was struggling with anorexia as a teenager following her mom's death. I personally feel that God has provided us with options that make it possible to help us deal with issues. It is my belief that everything good (such as treatment programs) comes from the original Creator Himself. He gave us the knowledge and the ability to help others. I also believe in the power of prayer because this was a major help when my mom was dealing with an eating disorder!
Bekka Joy
Firstly, I'm not talking about the post itself, I'm talking about the comment to which I replied (thus the indent), so I think that clears that up. Secondly, realistically, and for even those who do not believe in G-d, treatment programs provide much more help. They can tailor treatment to the person, and provide tangible support and therapies that are goal-oriented. I'm glad that when your mother struggled with her ED she found G-d could help her and she could overcome her problem, but I don't think that's true for most young women. As for Jesus, I'm Jewish, so I don't believe anyone was made in the image of another human (that's my belief, that's why I don't think he can help, it's not a criticism of yours).
b-money
"A cactus is the opposite of a chair. In my house you can sit anywhere but there."
Yeah, well people relapse all the time don't they? What she needs is her emotions dealt with, because often that's how these disorders start. You need to heal the core of the problem. There is only so much that a treatment program can do.
I didn't say forget treatement and JUST rely on Jesus, but if she jsut relies on treatment chances are she will relapse. Check out the stats.
It's kind of rude to call it a "strange disease"
And it's not just "all in your head" like some crazy hallucination. It seems incredibly real, and is a very painful way to have to live your life. No one chooses this, to be "strange" as you say. Jesus will help, that is true, but it's not as easy as that. It's a lifelong struggle.
http://www.progressiveu.org/090204-dont-miss-this-chance
Its NOT all in your head? Then how come there is no evidence of virus in the body, nothing in the body ITSELF that triggers it, not hereditary. The body suffers because of the person who has it all in their head and can't get it out.
DISCLAIMER: I am not being rude. I'm stating my opinion. No personal attacks are meant. Please give some leniency on how you take my words. imagine me saying them with a smile. ^__^
idk what to tell you, cause words don't mean anything when peopleTREAT you differently when you're skinny. it makes us never think we're good enough.
just stay strong. i'm here to talk if you need someone.
http://progressiveu.org/160921-self-nostalgia
http://www.progressiveu.org/090204-dont-miss-this-chance
How do people treat you different?
DISCLAIMER: I am not being rude. I'm stating my opinion. No personal attacks are meant. Please give some leniency on how you take my words. imagine me saying them with a smile. ^__^
Following my grandma's death when my mom was a young girl, my mom began to deal with anorexia. There is a major difference between a girl viewing herself as overweight and dealing with a major issue such as an eating disorder. The majority (if not all) of the time, anorexia is an issue that goes far beyond inches and pounds. When my mom was struggling with anorexia, she was undergoing major changes in her life because her mom had just committed suicide and she was experiencing feelings of rejection, loss, and lonliness. You are totally right; every girl needs to be reminded that they are beautiful.
Bekka Joy
Yeah. I agree. It's not just some part of her brain that's sick and needs to be fixed, like our friend said. It has to deal with the emotions. Until you deal with the emotions, the problem will keep coming back. Like I said, there is only so much that treatment centers can do. I am not pushing Jesus on anyone, but she does need to look on someone for STRONG support and healing.
It's so terrible that the world says you have to be a STICK to be gorgeous. I'm overweight. I could probably stand to lose 75 pounds, but I'm not like hugely fat. I know that. I have alot of muscle becuase of marching band and other stuff..I'm the strongest person in my family next to my dad. I'm used to walking alot and carrying heavy stuff. I've just build up alot of muscle. Of course I've got fat, but I'm not like hideous. I'm working to drop the weight though, and it's going good. I'm just taking it easy. I just wish I could tell every girl that it's okay to not be a stick because God loves us all no matter what we look like.
How are you dropping the weight? Lots of people have tried all sorts of diets but they say it doesn't work. Is it hard? I bet its easier for you because you lose more weight when you have muscles.
thanks for all of your comments.. your opinions are appreciated.
Dang hun I remember when I use to tell you how much I loved you and that you never needed to change how you looked. I believe you to be the most beautiful woman then and now. Ha thats why you got really mad at me when I bought you the Hershey Bars. Well im glad that that time is now done and over with because I couldnt handle worrying about you again like that.
http://www.progressiveu.org/090204-dont-miss-this-chance
She's lucky to have a good friend like you.
DISCLAIMER: I am not being rude. I'm stating my opinion. No personal attacks are meant. Please give some leniency on how you take my words. imagine me saying them with a smile. ^__^
yeah believe me im glad that time is over too
http://www.progressiveu.org/090204-dont-miss-this-chance
I liked your blog.
DISCLAIMER: I am not being rude. I'm stating my opinion. No personal attacks are meant. Please give some leniency on how you take my words. imagine me saying them with a smile. ^__^
to those of you who asked if they relapsed all the time... yes they do.. i struggled on and off with it for about 6 years. I still have times where i think about falling back. its not something thats easily shaken.