Mormon Sex?

I have a very limited education about Mormons. What is the difference between their sex and other sex? Is it that they keep their clothes on? If so, I would assume that sex is sex, no matter what you wear, right? It might just get a little more hot and sweaty with more clothes on...

i thought that mormons only had sex to procreate and they were not supposed to have sex for pleasure

I'm Mormon, and none of the issues/hangups are a part of my sex life. I have heard stories where some couples have issues because they've been taught all their lives not to have sex and then after marriage all of a sudden they can. There's certainly no rules against oral sex, nor is sex just for procreation (it is for procreation, pleasure, and to bring married couples closer together), nor is there a rule that says you have to immediately put the garment on after sex. Post coital naked snuggling is completely OK. Generally speaking, though, Mormons that have been through the temple wear the garment when they sleep.

Oh, and no one keeps the garment on during sex. I don't know where your family members got that. There is so much wrong with that as to be laughable.

This is just a little voyeuristic, don't you think? I assure you that the only thing different is the pleasure we derive from stroking the horns cleverly hidden in our hair on our heads.

Deceitful creatures that we are you can never believe us. After all, when we tell you what we believe, we lie. Our goal is domination. Our lives are a mix of pathetic misery, and we only stay because we fear murder if we leave. That's why you've never met someone who is no longer a mormon. We take an oath to kill them all, or at least saw off their horns so they can't enjoy sex.

As you can tell, I'm having a hard time taking the question seriously. It smacks of extremely poor taste.

My wife and I are both 6th generation Mormons who come from a long line of large famiies (we have 4 children).

Mormon Church leaders have taught that sex is not just for procreation but is ordained of God and a gift given to strengthen the relationship/bonds between husband and wife.

I have been married 25 years and my wife and I have as much sex as we both want ranging from multiple times per week to once a week. But for us, its not just about the sex - its about the love we have for each other in sharing ourselves and meeting one another's needs.

In reagrd to your questions, some Mormons take some things too literally in regard to modesty. Some women or men may want to keep their temple garments on because they may be ashamed of their body shape - which is an entirely different matter.

On answers to your questions:
Procreation: yes
Pleasure: yes
To strengthen bonds: yes
Garments worn: absolutely not during sex
Post coital nakedness: sure, whatever makes you comfortable (lock your door if you have children)
Oral sex: yes, if both partners agree and are comfortable with it (no coercion)

Recommended reading: 'And They Were not Ashamed" by Laura Brotherson.

you just hear so many stories...

Anyone with Mormon friends or relatives know that Temple marriages are consummated in front of the elders? I was told this by an ex-Mormon who said she didn't want to go along with the program. (If this is true, would any practicing Mormon admit it?)

Also, from my ex-Mormon friends and acquaintances, Mormon women are encouraged to "enjoy" sex as often and as much as they possibly can. It is part of their "duty" as a good Mormon wife and "creator" of lots and lots of little Mormons.

Momonomo

My first bishop in a university ward counseled each couple who went in for an interview before their temple marriages that certain practices were not acceptable in marriage, and each couple came out from the interviews very concerned about it. Due to their modesty, I don’t know the specifics of the counsel, but I can only guess that it would have been a prohibition against oral sex and possibly anything other than the missionary position. Actually, that was the beginning of the ’80s, so oral sex may not have even been on these students’ minds, and the issue may have been regarding positions and the necessity of wearing garments during coitus.

Yet, he was a local leader rather than a General Authority, and I know of no specific council from the top regarding such practices.

My wife is not a member of the Church, so I don’t really know about women’s temple garments, but if they do have an opening similar to what all men’s undergarments have, while no commercial women’s underclothing has such an opening, I can only guess that it was originally intended for use in coitus in past generations. There are stories among young adults that some conservative members of the Church do wear their garments during coitus.

I remember some people in that university ward quoting Bruce R. McConkie in a BYU speech as having said that he leaves his garments on the bedpost, indicating that one doesn’t have to rush to get dressed soon after making love but can cuddle as long as they wish afterward.

As for consummating one’s marriage in front of other people, it was either an utter falsehood or a misunderstanding by the person who mentioned that to you, Momonomo. That has been a false rumor, along with the claim of sacrificing virgins in the temple, that has been in existence for well over a century. Similar false rumors are claims that we believe that Heavenly Father had sexual relations with Mary—thus obviously rendering her a non-virgin—to plant the seed within her for the conception/gestation of His literal son, the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. No leader has ever taught that, and they emphasize that that “seed” was conveyed by the Holy Ghost, who is a spirit personage.

With the liberalization and openness of sex and seeing how members of the Church have been so strongly but gradually influenced by the culture in which they live, I would suspect that many or even most Latter-day Saints engage in oral sex and experiment with various positions, but I won’t venture to guess anything about anal sex. As you can see from the Web, a considerable number of Latter-day Saints have been influenced by society into believing that homosexuality is in-born in some people, and their interest is likely peaked while urges are being justified by what they hear around them. There definitely is an increasing worldliness among Church members compared to what I first saw when I joined the Church, but I’ve also moved around and lived in a few different countries, U.S. states, and Canadian provinces, so I don’t really know how those places may have been decades ago.

I'm not sure where people get this stuff, or maybe they're just trolling. LDS couples consummate their marriage in private, typically in a hotel room somewhere the night of the wedding.

As to the other questions, I'll confirm what the other Mormons have said. Sex is, well, sex. What can I say? It's enjoyable and a gift from God that's for both pleasure and procreation as well as for strengthening the marital bond. Details beyond that (how often, what positions, what to wear, when to get dressed afterward and so on) are up to the couple. I'm not sure what would be different about Mormon sex than Baptist sex or Presbyterian sex or whatever. We do emphasize monogamy, but so do lot of other Christians (and many non-Christians as well), so threesomes and that sort of thing are out. And it wouldn't be appropriate to use pornography within the marriage either. But other than those things, as long as couples use sex in an uplifting and mutually supportive way, whatever is agreeable to the couple is fine.

And, before the question gets asked, there is no LDS rule against use of birth control. Couples are certainly encouraged (not required) to become parents if they are able, but the timing is up to them and is a matter of prayerful consideration about what is best.

Hi Beagle-Babe,

I heard that oral sex was a forbidden practice within the Mormon commnity. Is this true? I agree, all sex is sex. But tell that to Bill Clinton.