Ok, here's the deal. I am a chriastian and I have been saving myself for marriage. I constantly am fighting with my family. I have a chance to get away from that and live with my current boyfriend over the summer. Well, he is under the impression that I will have sex with him. Also, this other guy said that he wanted to be my first time. I have two chances for sex. I also have two chances to break GOD'S heart. I also have two chances to get pregnent. I am going to college next year and if I were to get pregnent, then that would complicate things a lot. On one hand, i can get away from my screaming family and on the other hand, I could betray GOD and get pregnent. what do you think that I should do. Personally, I am not a person for change. Change scares me a lot! But, on the other hand, my life needs to change. Even if I stay it will get changed in four months when I go to college. Please help me to decide!!! I would be very greatful for your input!!!
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You run your life, not a religion....that's all I am going to say, because I really don't feel like making you feel that someone is being mean to you.
"All people are smart,
but it is up to them to figure that out."
-ME
P.S. Its not just a religion, God is my father!
Your life is lived by you and no other. Choose whether to live it or not. To actually live it though, you're going to have to experience things, you can't just follow things without judgement or you will not get the fulfillment of your own life. Stop being afraid and just follow your true self and nothing else. Sure you don't have to listen you would rather hear what the bible tells you, but the bible is not living, you are.
Someone in this thread has already said what's wrong, if you were to truly ask yourself, then you would of already known the answer, but then again....you haven't really lived your life to know that huh?
beith thou master of yee soul, don't let others be in control
take to your mind and you will find, the answers you look forward to, behind.
"All people are smart,
but it is up to them to figure that out."
-ME
i think you are wrong but that is you opinion i think it is great that she is trying to save herself. us women gto through alotr you dont have to house a baby not only for 9 months ( and that stuff hurts) but also for 18 + years i still have 16 years to go
Ok, I'm a woman and I disagree with you. Not only women have to put up with kids for 18 years. Besides, sex does not equal pregnancy, especially if she is smart enough to use birth control should she decide she wants to have sex.
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Exactly. I hate how parents these days are trying to scare their children into not having sex because they say when you have sex you immediately get pregnant. thats not how it works.
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thats right ps tell him we are christians not satanist,or athiest
you type too often when you should be thinking.
next time, don't post again saying p.s.
just edit your last post and add it in.
"All people are smart,
but it is up to them to figure that out."
-ME
I'd say just stick out the summer. I have a loud, screamy family myself, AND im one of the anti-change people. rushing into sex to escape your family if it is something that conflicts your beliefs is not the way to go. from the way you presented it, you dont seem to be ready. dont let those two guys pressure you into sex, especially if you belief its wrong.
I say stay out the summer--you will get enough of a break when you go to college--you dont need so many changes all at once.
Good luck with your decision!
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Thank you for that last comment Im a musician and I never get to dance!
First of all, having sex with the other guy is cheating. Second, if you don't feel comfortable having sex, just tell your boyfriend that. If he really loves you, he'll respect your wishes.
Finally, if you are so against breaking God's heart, why are you even considering it? It sounds like you've made up your mind anyway.
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i don't think that you should be with this boyfriend he knows you feel strongly about your no sex rule and he is still expecting it......every teenager has shouting matches with family, im 20 and it still occurs,so you would be running away from the probelm as opposed to confronting it which in the long run hurts more. Every person changes no matter what. Its apart of growing up, and thats part of the ever so wonderful college experience. I've become mature, and independant and thats not something to be scared of, and if your concerned about getting pregnate, then use birth control
Peace is in the hand of the future generation.... we are the future...lets start now.
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Sex, not very important, but to me, premarital sex is not a sin unless you are deeply in love with that person. If your boyfriend has the impression that you are going to have sex with him, just talk to him and say that you don't want to. It doesn't hurt to say no, but if he doesn't understand that, then he's not really a good boyfriend now is he? I hope that all made sense.
i know exactly how you feel i used to be that way then boys started to think they would just take i9t awy but ethen one day i was forced got pregnant and felt like i felled god but i found out through some good friends that it wasnt my fault. that one mistake if you make it wont make god frown on you. im still sticking it out in school. so save yourself but only you know when you are ready. oh yeah if you do it remember to ask god for forgiveness
Well, if you do have sex, use a condom. There, now you won’t get pregnant. I think you should decide to have sex when you truly love the person, not because it’s expected of you or because some guys want to be your first. It should be about love. If either of the guys don’t respect your wishes to wait, then I’d question if they really do love you. If they don’t love you the way you should be, why bother? Wait for love.