For these few months I had known a guy who I want him as a friend but he wants me as his girl friend. I don’t really know what to do because I don’t want to be his girl friend, I just want to be a good friend of his. I don’t think that he knows where I’m coming from, he thinks that if I’m always there for him I should be his girl friend. Sometimes I feel really sorry that I’m hurting him because I won’t be his girl friend. I feel like I’m stuck in between because I know that if I date him I would hurt my family a lot because he is a bad boy. I just want to be a good friend to him and listen to him when ever he is down. I want to help him out with everything because I know that he grew up in a bad place, where there is no such word as “good.” I helped made him go to school and stop his drug business but I don’t know if he is sees what I’m doing to him. I don’t know think that he understand that I can’t date him because of my family. My family didn’t tell me that I can’t date him but I know that they would not accept him,
Right now our relationship is going down hill because last week he tried calling me and I didn’t pick up my phone for that whole week. He thinks that I had a boy friend that’s why I didn’t pick up his calls. He doesn’t know that I was sick and very tired that week that’s why I didn’t pick up any of his calls. I know that he is really hurt because he thinks that I won’t be there for him anymore. I don’t really know what to do because I feel that even though I tell him about everything I would still really hurt him, but I still want to be there for him and help him out of everything that is hard for him.
Hey! I've been in your situation ... many times!! I know what you are going through... he's your friend and things are going good right now ... and you are afraid that if you say you don't want to be his girlfriend he won't want to be around anymore, right?? Yeah .. i've felt like that. But, I that's what I had to do unfortunately. I just told my friend that I didn't like him the same way he liked me and that I liked our relationship the way it was .. just friends!! Of course he was bummed ... he avoided me for about a week or two .. but, then things got back to normal. It was basically because ... he needed someone to talk to about a few things that were on his mind .. and he had remembered that I told him .. I would always be there for him no matter what. Whatever he needed to talk about, I'll be there to talk to him. So, things got better between us .. In my opinion, our friendship got stronger because of that situation. Now, he's like my brother (well, to me he is) ... i still kind of think that he may like me just a little. However, It's been about 2 1/2 years since that situation and we are still the best of friends .. in fact, he has a girlfriend now. He still talks to me when he needs to .. sometimes he even talks to me about the problems he has with his girlfriend.
So, trust me when I say ... you just have to tell him what's on your mind. Don't be afraid! Just tell him that you only want to be friends... I'm sure things will be just fine. If he was really your friend ... he would understand where you are coming from and still want to be your friend and will still come to talk to you.
in my very own personal opinion i think you should have at least answered the phone to tell him you were sick and would call him when you felt better.
but u know if you have deeper feelings for him than just friends. But you can't always date who your parents approve of. I know this because I am white and last year i dated a black guy and my parents hated it. well my dad did but my mom loved him.
so i definately know this.
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It sounds like you need to be honest with him and tell him what's up. Also, don't not date someone just because you don't think your family will like it. It's your life, not theirs.
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