Premarital sex

Its all up to what your personal beliefs are. If you're religious and dedicated to the belief against it, then dont compromise. Otherwise, I would say only do it if you love the girl. If not, you're only doing it for the "status" of not being a virgin when you enter high school, and thats pretty immature. Sex isnt about the show. Its about the emotional connection between people. If you arent emotionally connected, dont do it!

It doesn't have to be an emotional connection to do something like that. Not to make the world sound bad but this is the new age. If you feel that you want to do it just to do it then go ahead. Yes some think it's morally or religiously wrong to do that before marriage but thats why we are in America because people have the right to choose what they wanna do.

You said that you previously wanted to wait until marriage. I'd encourage you to hold strong in your beliefs. Chances are, you're going to regret this decision after you do it. Even if you don't you've made an extremely important decision that you can't take back. Obviously you had a reason for waiting until this point to have sex, so I say stay strong and wait until marriage. She said she wants to "break you in before college." Are you planning to continue the trend once you get to college by having sex with many different people? I don't think sex is really an act you need to engage in just to be "broken in" and conform to a society that thinks all people must have sex before marriage.

WOW, this female seems a little pushy! LOL but if you feel that you are up to it, I believe a person should then go for it if they wanted, thats the beauty of freedom and free choice! BUT love is truely the most blessed feeling especially when having intercourse, consider that.
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It honestly depends on how you view sex. If you think it's sacred and should only be shared with someone you truly love, then I wouldn't settle for someone that sees you as a horse that needs to be trained. I had several friends (male and female) in college that were virgins. It's not a social requirement. :)

Personally, I feel that you only have one chance to experience your first time. Do you want to remember it as an amazing loving experience or as something that you did just to get it out of the way? You're a human being. You deserve to be with someone that sees you that way, not as a project or an object to be used.

You don't HAVE to wait until marriage to stick to your morals. You can still wait for the right time with the right person without having to wait until you get married.

If you have to ask, then you probably shouldn't do it.

It's almost as if you are talking with those around you and they're telling you about it, and you're thinking "hey, they can do it; why can't I?"

Peer-pressure is not a good reason for having sex. Neither pressure from this girl, nor from your friends.

Finally, I'd like to dissuade these notions that we live in a more "progressive" society in which we are "free" to have sex with whomever we may please, through asking a few pointed questions.

Has human nature changed any bit over the last thousand years? Does the modernity of our society sooth the hurt of a used human heart?

Two very close friends of mine were both a lot like you. They had a notion that they would wait, but they weren't committed. This was absolutely the worst possible combination because If you don't think you'll do it, then you probably won't buy protection beforehand, and consequently when things heat up, you'll end up getting somebody pregnant.

And that's exactly what happened in both my friend's cases. You can read her blog here. She's in a heap of trouble, but she's making the best of it. Not much thanks to the father, who's decided he'd rather get drunk on weekends. Trust me, you don't want to be that guy. Think about what you are doing. You are creating life. You are creating an extension of yourself. You are creating a family. This is not something to be taken lightly. Moreover, you don't want to contribute to the terribly destructive cycle of absent fathers in today's society.

It's as if you've got a big gooey cookie in front of you and you just want to get it over with and eat it right away. You can go ahead, but just know that you'll be spoiling your dinner, and that that cookie is filled with empty calories that will leave you wanting more--a deeper bond of love consecrated in marriage.

Trust me that I know firsthand that it isn't easy. But you can do it, and you will be rewarded in the end.

Ask yourself: what are the reasons why you would do it? If it's just to "Get it over with," then maybe you don't really want to in the first place? If its because you love this girl and want to share something special with her...and you're both having safe sex...and you're ready..then by all means..enjoy!

I'm planning to wait until marriage. It's just more special that way.

I never really understood the overall point of premarital sex. Self pleasure? Because really, it accomplishes nothing more than breaking hearts and adding confusion in an already hectic society. The potential side effects are not worth the risk. And I won't even get into the apparent "immorality" of it. I, by all means, am against premarital sex.

Anyways, I must agree with what's been said - if you're having doubts in the first place, I wouldn't do it. Especially if it's for the purpose of "getting it over with".

I guess you could think of it as the oh-so-cliche "your virginity is a gift". Once you give it away, that's it - you can't take it back. Just think about how much more amazing it would be if you waited and shared it with your wife for the first time. :)