So lets face it. Being a parent is very stressful!! If that wasn't enough, being a single Christian parent is even more stressful. Have you ever had people stare at you when your 3 year old is in the middle of the store throwing a temper tamtrum? Isn't that just so embarresing. Sometimes I just want to say something...but then I remember that I can't let my mouth get me in trouble.
So...if you haven't already guessed, I have a 3 year old daughter at home. Don't get me wrong. She is very precious, and the center of my universe; however, she has gotten to where she presses my buttons. She is 3 with an attitude of a 16 year old. Now when I tell her to do something...instead of hearing,"Ok, mommy.", I now hear,"Ahh MOM!". Yeah...you might be laughing and think it is funny....but sometimes....enough is enough.
I have gotten advice....much unwanted....from non-Christian parents, but that is not what I need. I need advice from people who believe in the same things I do....and who will guide and lead me, so I can handle her in a Godly way....and not by the World's standards.
I can't believe these mothers that kill their children....just because they stress them out. That is just so wrong. I could never ever think of killing my daughter. She means everything in the world to me. Or how can parents abuse their children. There are innocent little kids being killed everyday from being abused....and it just makes me sick to my stomach everytime I hear about it.
Another thing is the way parents let there children dress these days. I would have gotten a big slap across the face by my mother if I dressed the way 90% of the teens these days dress. I was going to the mall and I saw these 2 young girls standing outside the mall with there mother. The girls were probley 12 and 14. There shorts were so short you could see their but cheeks. And the bad thing was....their mother had no problem with that.
We wonder why there is so much rape and sexuality in the world today. It is because, pardon my french....but we let our teens dress like SLUTS! There I said it. And then we are concerned about them....when we find out they are having sex, or find out that they have been raped.
Also, another reason that our kids cause us the stress they do, is we don't give them the time of day. In todays culture, the majority of parents are more worried about their careers than there familys. And we wonder why kids rebel.
Honestly, I am scared for my daughter when she hits school age. I seriously do not want her going to a big school, because I don't want to have to worry about her the whole time she is there.
Anyways....this is the conclusion I came up with. The stress that I think I have is nothing. I would take it any day over the stress of the majority of today's parents. Let's face it....yeah....we have stressful lives....but we cause the stress ourselves.
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Dang girl. You really put some thought into this didn't you. Right on. I agree with you 100%. You know I am not a parent yet, but I am terrified for my nieces and nephews. This is a bad bad world.
You know, it's really up to the parents to teach their kids about safety and how to keep a good head on their shoulders. It shouldn't matter if your child goes to a big school and there are things going on there that you wouldn't want her participating in. If you teach her right, she will know to stay away from all of that.
I have a nine year old, and I teach him right from wrong, and I also provide him with a good, positive role model in myself. He's a good kid, and I believe that he will stay that way, no matter what he encounters in his childhood, because he has strong, moral parental support.
By the way, rape is not a crime of sex, it is a crime of violence. It doesn't matter how you dress your daughter, or how she dresses herself. A rapist is going to rape because of anger issues, and a need to exert power over someone. It isn't because someone is walking around in a belly shirt.
I have gotten advice....much unwanted....from non-Christian parents, but that is not what I need. I need advice from people who believe in the same things I do....and who will guide and lead me, so I can handle her in a Godly way....and not by the World's standards.
What's wrong with non-Christian parents giving you advice? They are parents just like you, and some of them are rather Godly. If you want to hear from Christian parents, talk to the parents at your church.
I would have gotten a big slap across the face by my mother if I dressed the way 90% of the teens these days dress.
I don't think you've seen enough of the teen population to rule that 90% of them dress inappropriately. I used to wear nothing but jeans in high school. And tops that would completely cover my shoulders, and go past my waist. The lowest neckline I had hit the top of my chest. Most of the girls that I had in class on a daily basis dressed the same way. Yes, a few teenage girls dress very inappropriately, but saying that 90% of them do is a gross exaggeration.
we let our teens dress like SLUTS! And then we are concerned about them....when we find out they are having sex, or find out that they have been raped.
As the poster above me said, NO woman asks to be raped. It doesn't matter what the hell she is wearing. She didn't ask to be raped, and has every right to have people concerned for her. I believe my health teacher in middle school said that when convicted rapists were shown a picture of an old, helpless woman, and an attractive, youthful woman that looked like she could protect herself, they would choose to go after the older woman. Rape isn't about sex. It is about power. They want to overpower their victims.
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Ok...I said that I had gotten unwanted advice and that is what I meant. I didn't ask for alot of advice that was given me. It was UNWANTED! I do infact get the wanted advice from fellow Christian parents.
The way our teens dress. Ok...so it might not be 90%...but it is just to make a point. I myself dressed very modestly in high school. And to say that just a FEW dress inappropiatly is not true either. It is our cultures way of thinking.
About the rape thing.....
If you dress like a slut...you will be treated like one. And yes...the way a female dress will influence a rapist. Not all times...but quite a bit. No, the female might not be actually asking to be raped verbally...but they need to be aware of the vibes they are sending out...because of the inappropiatness of their clothes.
The first time you said it, and it's still ridiculous the second time around. Rape (you can get educated on the subject, if you really want to, you know) is NOT about what a woman is wearing. It is an act of violence. It is NOT an act about sexual desire. A woman is just as likely to be raped if she is wearing a snowsuit as she is if she's in a bikini. A rapist doesn't rape because he's horny and sees a scantily clad woman walking down the street. He rapes because he has severe mental issues regarding power and violence.
I forgot something. It isn't that I am scared for my daughter to go to a big school or the fact that I think she won't do the right things. I am scared because the schools in my area are really bad. I am scared that I will send my child to school one day...and I will never see her again.
There is a great band that talks about the clothes issue. They are christian check them out, Barlow Girls, three sisters who sings about purity, dating, clothes, everything in a christian view point. Another thing you can look up christain support groups to help you rasie your daughter the way you want.