http://www.motherjones.com/news/feature/2007/11/did-i-steal-my-daughter....
Go read this FANTASTIC article!! Worth the time it takes to understand what is really happening as this counrt imports children from impovished nations and exploits women with no resourses.
I think that it does demonstrate the very normal process of education that many open minded adoptive parents seem to be taking. No longer do all parents seem as entitled by their own desires or fears or so ready to stick their heads in the sand and keep them there. I think many are coming into the adoption arena thinking that the old myths about "saving" children are true, or my personal favorite, that relinquishing mothers are somehow "thankful;' or "greatful" to be away from thier children, butin the process, somehow, someway, they learn the truth.
I really do belive great progress is being made. When I think back to when I first stumbled upon the internet adoption community, there were very few places that even mentioned the darker side of adoption. Lord knows, there were almost NO adoptive parents really who could admit to such truths. I think I knew three: Mariceta, Jamie, and Michelle. Every other one wanted to belive the happy feel good fluff stories about adoption, and help those of us who tried to say otherwise...we were seen as personally attacking all things pure and holy.
There were a few mothers of loss who ventured out of our safe places to speak, and about as few adoptees who did the same. We were told again and again how bitter and angry we were. How we needed medication and therapy and to get a life. Dismissed as either sluts or nuts, but often both, insults were hurled, names called and bannings and deleates ruled the day.About 6 years ago, if anything not 100% pleasant was mentioned about adoption, that post would be deleated on Adoption.com and the poster banned forevermore. If nothing else, we were given the standard line that " most situations are not like that" or "the people who are happy are just not online..only the crazies are all over the place"
Now, being able to sit in a room with 300 plus others.. and most of them NOT mothers or adoptees... and to hear again and again it admitted that adoption should be a last resort? OMG, I never thought this day would come! To read an article as thus...
Yes, i have hope. I have more than hope.. I see progress.. and somewhere deep inside, I have to admit to myself, that I helped this progress happen.
Yeah, we can change the world..even if it one person at a time.
