I am a Middle Eastern student, who came to the States four years ago. Back in my homecountry, I had a difficult time to associate with people who think the way I do. I was always open-minded, never cared about anyones nationality, ethnicity, race or religion. As the United States of America is known as the biggest melting pot for different cultures, nations, the country that has the most diversity of people, I was excited, to come here, to finally be able to gain acceptance for my thoughts. I didn't have a hard time finding friends, but dating? I can't say how many times, guys rejected me for my background, recently someone broke up with me whom I dated for almost a year, with the explanation that our cultures were too different. I know his parent were not very happy about me. I am very compromising, respect and accept others, so I never tried to push any of my believes, thoughts on someone.
There were some who did not think that way but got convinced by their friends or families that it's wrong to date me. I signed up at a dating websites, and as I was doing searches, I was shocked about how many people were pretty much looking to date from their own race or background. We live in the 21st century, so many people see themselves as open-minded individuals, but has their open-mindness a limit? A friend of mine dated a girl from a different background for 4 years, he was sure he was going to marry her, but she eventually broke up with him, saying that her family and friends won't accept their marriage, that she should marry someone from her own "people". Has love eyes for races? If we share the same interests, personality traits with someone, if there is a connection and attraction, why would race be an issue? Don't get me wrong, I've also seen different cases, but it does not satisfy me, it's still not enough! Should I just accept it as it is, and not think about it? I would love to hear opinions who share the same idea as I do, but also from people who don't.
While you would think that people in America would be more open minded when it comes to marriage, but they really aren't. People prefer their own kind because you have more in common and can relate to one another. the traditions are the same and it makes things easier. there's more to talk about and compare. I know I prefer people who are also from the West Indies.
Because it's easier.... I think there is way more to talk about and compare when you have different cultures. I know it's easier to understand certain aspects when you are both from the same culture, but nowadays, where we are surrounded by so many cultures, where we are in touch with so many different people, why should it be different in the relationship aspect? Why is it that the first question is always "where are you from"? I care more about the person, their personality, their thoughts, their uniqueness. Do you consider yourself as an open-minded person?
I ask people where they're from when I first meet them because it seems like a good ice breaker. It leads to other questions that tell you about them such as what they did for fun and what they thought about their hometown. Personally, I agree that when you date someone who is different it is more interesting. Not just race, but family, hometown, interests, or religion. And if you are going to discriminate by race, what's the line? Should you only date people whose parents are like yours in education and career? Only people from your state because they will have more of an interest in local politics? Am I limited to only dating other business majors because a social science major might not understand my goals?
For the person who commented below, will your children really be grateful? How does that ensure that the marriage will last? A child of an interracial marriage is likely to have an easier time getting their parents to accept whoever he falls in love with because they will empathize.
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Yeppers - Best to stay with your own kind - your kids will thank you for it.
You're not the only mixed child. A lot of mixed kids are happy and don't have identity problems. Maybe you should move somewhere with more open-minded people. A society's ignorance is not reason for a couple not to have a child.
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oh,,,, guys, you can not image what I have met. I am a black cuttie and I just met my love half year ago and we will get married next month, and interracial love of course. Am I lucky? So lucky I think, and I wanna share my happiness with all of you here.
By the way, I found my half part baby on a great interracialchats site.He is really gorgeous, even sometimes he is a liittle shy. -:) If you try, you also can be the next lucky one. LOL.
Bye!! and good luck to you all.
As some of you know may know, I'm of Africa heritage. Hubby, on the other hand, is Caucasian. To most people, we're an interracial couple. It's nothing I really think about or notice, but other people (occasionally) comment on it.
As a result, I'm fairly sensitive to interracial dating. And I recently discovered InterracialMatch.com, an interracial dating website for men and women who are specifically looking for an interracial relationship. The site features people of all ethnicities, ages and socio-economic backgrounds, and it allows you to search by zip code for interacial personals.
The user friendly site allows members to send messages to potential dates, and you can join for free. The profiles include plenty of information, such as age, marital status, children, pets, music and movie preferences, political views and more. With this much information, it's easy to find someone who could be a great romantic match for you!
I would think that it goes both ways. While it doesn't matter if you fall in love with someone of another race, why look only for other races. Love can occur within your race or outside of it. Love should be regardless of race. I guess if you just want to experience different things, an interracial dating site isn't a bad thing, but only if you aren't there expecting to find your soul mate, which is sort of my opinion on all dating sites.
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