I used to say that I would never date a military man, but here I am engaged to one. The truth is, until you have been there, you dont understand. You may think "that is just too hard" or "thats just dumb" (believe me, I did!)
The thing I love about our relationship is our ability to talk to one another. (I would really hope so, since that is really what your relationship is all about) You always know within the first couple weeks whether or not its going to work, if you run out of things to talk about, chances are, it wont. A military relationship is rarely "purely physical" because the truth is, you may go months at a time without seeing him/her. (Ever heard someone say "Im sexually deprived for your freedom?")
Im not trying to say that military relationships are easy, they arent. It sucks that I dont get to kiss him whenever I want to, or get a hug when I am down, but the truth is, my fiance is so worth it. There is nothing like that first kiss when you havent seen them in months. The point Im trying to make: it takes a strong person to be in a military relationship.
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I have to say this is all too true. Military relationships are hard, not only have I seen one with a close friend, and been closely involved in many counseling’s on both ends; but I am also in one. The woman I am with I could not be happier with, and though I have constantly been told that getting or being married in the military is a stupid decision I would do it again if I had to.
It would be nice if the military made it a little easier to actually have a relationship, maybe do a little more to support things like that, but I understand all too well that when I signed that paper I signed away my life, literally; social, love or otherwise.
The man that has you is a very lucky person indeed and should thank God every morning he wakes up to you, and for the mornings he doesn’t I’m sure he dreams of doing so. My best wishes to you.
I definitely understand what you are going through... my boyfriend is in the reserves right now and we are in a long-distance relationship. And it's only going to get worse. I FEEL for you, because it definitely takes a strong person to do it.
My fiance is in the army. Its HARD! We've made it three years two and a half of which he's been in the army. We lasted through a 15 month deployment to Iraq. That was one of the hardest things I have ever dealt with in my life. We didnt see each other for a year. When times were good we would get to talk on yahoo messenger for an hour or so. When they weren't so good I wouldn't hear from him for days or weeks and for one perios it was over a month. We went through a huge fight when he thought I had cheated on him. He lost faith and gave up. Its so easy to do that when all the guys over there are getting cheated on. So many women can't handle it and its not fair to the men over there. I stayed faithful and we worked out his doubts and frustrations. Today we are stronger than ever. Your right alost all of a military relationship is communication. Thats what makes them so strong. I love my fiance and if I had to try this all over again I would do it all over again. Some things are worth fighting for.
~ Be so strong that nothing can disturb your piece of mind~
I swore the same thing. I'd never date a military man, I'd seen how it was since my uncle was in the army and still is my entire life. I didn't want that. I wanted someone who would be there. But thats before I met the love of my life. He is currently serving in Iraq and we've definitely had our spats. But I have to say, its been the one of the hardest things I've ever gone through, but its the most fulfilling thing I've ever done.