The old cliche: "never judge a book by its cover". This is a perfect analogy when it comes to people. Everyone has a story, it may not show by the cover thought, not everyone comes with a self-explanatory title descibing what they've been threw & what they're about. I am 18, I am tall, thin, smart, and funny. This is what people see as they look at me, what they dont see is my story. I have a bone disease, most of my friends don't know this. I find it embarrasing. I want to feel as if Ive earned everything I get not that someone felt sorry for me so they gave me something. My bone disease is osteomalacia. I break bones easily, they are deteriorating, I look 18 but have the bones of an 80 year old woman. I don't take in nutrients when I eat,& I cannot gain weight-although I try. I have been told multiple times exactly this because of my weight, " you think you're so great cuz youre skinny dont you" and " just admit youre anorexic". Even my dr.s were convinced that I was anerexic and injuring myself since I had so many broken bones until they took proper tests!
When I found out what was wrong with me I was devistated. I couldn't be in sports, which I loved, its hard for me to work, I can't have children, the few friends I told looked at me like a freak, I felt hideous, as I got older my back started curving which made me feel even more hideous. And people were constantly criticizing me about my weight, my back, my boney hips, everything. I felt awful, I fell into a great depression.
I am now more confident, I go to physicians frequently, I eat properly, I excersize regularly and focus on the great things in my life.
The point of me writing this is that it was really hard with my problem and it didnt help when people who had no idea what I was going threw would make fun of me and talk about me and even to me. So even if someone seems a little different, or physically different, or even just obviously upset about something don't autimatically judge them or make fun of them-YOU dont know what they have going on and YOU don't have to deal with what they do. Everyone has different elments in their life, it may not be an illness but it may be something like abuse, family problems, financial problems; the point is we don't know and some people, like me, don't like discussing their problems.
Books by their covers: Beyond appearances
By girlmakingadiff... - Posted on May 12th, 2008
I believe the anorexic comment. It's a rude comment that seems to happen to naturally skinny girls, like my friend Kelly who I swear is so thin she's concave. But I know she's not anorexic, and I wouldn't suggest it. Teenagers just like to start mean little rumors so they can feel superior.
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It is good that you talked about your condition and expressed how you felt about it.Ignore what people say because many of them are only being cruel because they have recieved the same thing in return from others. Good write.
My friend put it perfectly when he said: "We judge people first by their color, then their clothing, then their weight." I know we don't mean to do it half of the time, but it's the truth.
The problem is that in today's society, differences are singled out and yet flaunted at the same time. We want to show the world that we are not "just like everyone else" and at the same time, we want to be accepted and "just like everyone else".
You hit right on the problem of our society. No longer is the problem purely racist (although that is still a MAJOR factor.) Now we're throwing weight into it, and that's not right.
This same friend of mine is immensely overweight, but not through any fault of his own. He was born with a gland problem or something, and he will always be that size. But people see him and think, "Well, someone made a few too many stops at McDonalds". It's ridiculous! Thank you for pointing it out. It's been bugging me, too.