a good part of many males "downfall' is the fact that our senses are so dumbed down. we have replaced olfactory, auditory, even visual senses with the powers of our cognitive process. if most males could tell when a women were having menstruation or ovulation, then most, if not all of these problems that Tatvadnyani have set forth with the blog "On the testosteronic curse: overly honest observations of a sexually charged man," would be alleviated.
link: http://www.progressiveu.org/124725-testosteronic-curse-overly-honest-obs...
another factor that comes into play is the fact that we cannot sense these things, so therefor men are constantly in rutting season. biologically we have to be ready to reproduce at any moment. we have to be on the ball, ready to let our seed prosper in the gardens of the other sex, not when the mood strikes us, but when they are ready to receive said seed. i think that some of the reason behind this is, in part, was for human survival during the ice ages.
most animals rut during the hottest months of the year, when the days are longest. during the ice ages, the days weren't long at all, and temperatures weren't that high either. in order to survive we needed to be able to reproduce at any given moment, rather than during a certain time of year.
i believe that most of the birth control methods are a good part of why we are so overly sexed in america, if we can have carefree sex at any moment, without the forethought of possible birth, then we do not, repeat, do not have to worry about the repercussions of our sexual actions.
while it is true that testosterone is the main sexual hormone, i believe that it also helps the cognitive purpose also. hell, most of my best writing, happened when i had, to use the colloquial term, blue balls. which, to you women out there, is when a man's testes are so full of semen that they feel swollen and are very uncomfortable, why do they call them blue balls? because they are sad, they feel full, and might want to vomit, if you catch my drift.
i don't know why but not having sex for a prolonged period of time, and definitely not thinking about it, helps me focus better on other things. i better understand what i am sensing, trying to do, or whatever really. what i would like to know, does this happen to other guys?
Yours truly,
.demosthenes
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Good post very informative and intriguing.
I am not a 'guy' so I dont know.
One intresting thing I wanted to share is that my older brother can 'smell' when a woman is coming up on her mestral period about three days before she starts. He also says that a womans 'smell' varies throught the month and is pretty sure he knows also when his wife is ovulating.
Weird
~T
All truths are easy to understand once discovered; The point is to discover them ~Galileo
"Blue balls" occurs as a result of constricted blood flow from the genitals in and aroused state. As soon as the erection subsides, the blue balls state ends. It has nothing to do with the amount of seminal fluid in the testicles. Many men believe this is the case, because the condition is relieved after ejaculating, but it is relieved because the blood flow returns to normal. Any loss of erection will solve the problem. Basically, having an erection is kind of like twisting a rubber band around your fingers too tightly. Excess seminal fluid is just reabsorbed into the body, with no discomfort.
So girls, don't let him (not you, demosthenes...any guy) pressure you into going all the way just to relieve his blue balls. A cold shower or thoughts of his mother will do the same thing as getting off.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman
because it seems to me as if you were talking about your comment. one thing you must remember, your don't have male genitalia.
if a man ejaculates quite frequently, then his body is used to producing large amounts of semen. if he stops doing so, then there is an excess of sperm and other hormonal fluids to then deal with.
during the process of coitus, there are glands down there, they fill up with the needed fluids to produce the end result, semen. if these glands don't excrete those fluids, then yes the body does reabsorb most the fluids, but it doesn't happen just like that. it takes a few days to do so. thus the discomfort and swollen nature of the testes and other glands. this can be quite uncomfortable.
blueballs has nothing to do with blood flow, the testes are located outside of the body for a reason, bodyheat can kill sperm, the blood flow to the testes is relatively small otherwise the temperature of the blood would cause the sperm to die. thus erections have almost nothing to do with the amount of fluid in the glands, and testes, they have to do with sexual arousal.
if a man doesn't ejaculate, then it feels as if his testes are bruised, hence blue balls. this state, as you like to call it, happens more so if a man is good at holding onto his reserve. if he can go for a long time without ejaculation, then the glands fill up even more so.
it really has nothing to do with an erection, those glands fill up naturally over time. ejaculation only relieves said glands of their fluids. if a man doesn't masturbate then he might have a wet dream, in which case, he ejaculates anyway, probably inside some dream girl.
also, girls just tell them to rub one off in the bathroom. i am sure they know how to do it.
and sorry if this has gotten a little vulgar, but the two-backed beast is something that everyone has to deal with in one way or another.
Yours truly,
.demosthenes
http://health.discovery.com/centers/sex/sexpedia/blueballs.html
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/questions/blue-balls
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/boyfriend/fbi_files_vasocongestion_aka...
The above link even reads, "It is important to note that "blue balls" isn't about a buildup of sperm, because sperm simply doesn't "build up" in that way." AND "Orgasm (ejaculatory or nonejaculatory) -- either with a partner or through masturbation -- will make the pain and swelling go away. Alternately, letting the arousal simply fade out with rest or other nonsexual acticity will also make vasocongestion go toodle-oo. In addition, a cold or warm compress or shower can be used, as can an analgesic like ibuprofen or aspirin to alleviate the pain, or some simple physical activity like running, walking or other sports."
But I suppose it is possible that all three sources could be completely wrong. What are YOUR sources?
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman
also my entire class grilled the teacher when it came to sex ed. especially about ejaculation, most thought of it as funny, but i paid attention.
that may be the case, in many situations, but i am not saying that blue balls is an accurate term, hence using the term "colloquial". the sensation of pain isn't always in the testes, it is also in glands that also help make semen. like the articles said, it isn't about the "build up" of sperm, sperm count doesn't differ from time to time, ejaculation excluded, but the seminal vesicle, the prostate and the bulbourethral gland all generate fluids, mixed with sperm to make semen. these are located within the groin, AWAY from the penis and testes, the pressure doesn't go away completely, as these glands are mostly used for making semen. while sperm is reabsorbed in most cases with men, sometimes it does build up. there is a condition called anejaculation, which is the inability to ejaculate. i know this because i suffered from it when i was fourteen, i really did have blue balls then, ha ha. notice the space between the ha's.
ejaculate volume is affected by the amount of time that has passed since the last ejaculation. larger ejaculate volumes are seen with greater durations of abstinence. hmm. i wonder why? because the glandular factor has time to build up stores of the fluids needed to ejaculate. so it isn't just about the erection, like i stated earlier. hell right now i can feel my glands. they are ready to go. do i have an erection? not at all. my testes feel almost similar but not in a discomforting way.
in all of the articles, it's stated that the build up of seminal fluids doesn't just go away, that ejaculating helps the discomfort, and loosing an erection doesn't. sexual arousal in men, isn't just about the erection, especially as much as you make it out to be, and with some men, with oedipus complexes, thinking of their mom might not help either. so all in all, we men are more than just walking boners.
Yours truly,
.demosthenes
you siite cosmo and scarleteen as sources, only the first one really says it all and it seems that the others are near plagiarisms with a few words changed here and there. they don't say were they got this info.
what are the parameters of these supposed studies. how many men? in a controlled environment? or did they just ask men to write down how they felt after ejaculating? where there doctors? did the doctors take into account the fact that some of these men might have ejaculated within the past few days or weeks for that matter? or that some of these men might be deficient to be test subjects due to various sexual disorders? i mean that isn't very specific information. they just say that loosing the erection can alleviate the discomfort. and i know for a fact that isn't always the case.
Yours truly,
.demosthenes
Sorry for useing such a 'myspace' title but seriously...
Actuall that is probably not funny to have blue balls or the inability to ejaculate.
...I just think it is hilarious that we (rather you in this respose) are talkin about you 'balls'....This place is awesome and I do not have to worry about blushing.
~T
All truths are easy to understand once discovered; The point is to discover them ~Galileo
hey if i can't talk about them seriously what can i talk about then?
Yours truly,
.demosthenes
I don't even CARE about this issue. I'm a freaking lesbian, for Christ sake! I'm just trying to help you get your facts straight. The phenomenon you call blue balls is "vasocongestion." Vaso, as in having to do with the blood vessels, and congestion, as in excessive or abnormal accumulation. So it is an excessive accumulation on the blood vessels, which means it is an accumulation of blood. You said "blue balls. which, to you women out there, is when a man's testes are so full of semen that they feel swollen and are very uncomfortable." This is simply not the case.
The articles I linked were intentionally chosen because their target audience is horny teenagers, which you are. They stated the condition very clearly. They did not deny its existence, they did not deny that it is uncomfortable, so I don't know why you are getting all salty about it.
Seriously, I don't know why I try to help you out. It's like a train wreck every time I try. I give up, for real this time.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/ediblewoman
whatever, do what you want. it probably won't change much since you have been doing what you want all along.
i got my facts straight when you first told me. don't sweat it. i furthered the explanation of phenomena, in greater detail, without your damn sources, and still you said i was completely wrong.
i was saying that there is more to it than just the blood flow, you didn't prove me wrong by just repeating yourself, so i don't see why you think me still completely wrong and you in the absolute right. i have been saying that neither of us were right, and that is something that i am sure that everyone could agree to. i just didn't edit my blog. you could have just as easily said, "semen isn't in there, buddy, sperm is."
personally i don't see why they, the article writers are taking it so literally, i mean, "blue because of the excess of blood in them" they get more pinkish, not bluer. also there is that phrase, black and blue, like bruising, which swells, due to blood vessels rupturing, and it is sensitive to touch. i think that is more of where the term originated, but who can prove that? no one, so it doesn't matter, now does it?
i am not trying to get this "salty" like you say. i just don't like your word choice, in many ways it only seems like criticizing what i write and my character, and is definitely not encouraging, or constructive.
i don't need a tutor, i don't see why you have taken it upon yourself try to be, either. i do appreciate you trying to correct me on my writing, though. hopefully in the future, you could be a little bit more buddy buddy, and not so much of this "your incorrect, look at this, look how i found out your are wrong" type stuff, and a little bit more "seriously, dude, check this out, you might want to edit your blog thing."
these blogs can be edited, you know, these things aren't final. to tell you the truth i completely forgot about that sentence.
maybe i am not taking these things seriously enough, yes, but child, i am not, nor do i appreciate being called such, not by many and certainly not by you.
i hope in the future, you don't assume to much about me. you don't know me, you know this. and you don't even know if even i am horny. so you can nix that too. sex is kind of the least thing on my mind. for a good number of reason, aside from my aversions to it, regardless of the fact that it pretty much is useless, to me and many other people, and if anyone brings up the fact that it is fun, they can just go fuck themselves. i don't care. go have your fucking dumb retarded fun, do you know how stupid all of us look, while in the throes of sex? it is a pretty disgusting, albeit, necessary practice. it definitely isn't the be all end all on things. and neither are you ediblewoman, so tone your self importance down a tad, because it doesn't become you. not at all.
right now pretty much all i care about is caring for myself. i am virtually homeless, i am lucky enough to be able to stay at a friends house for a few more days. for the past six months it has been a constant battle for a place to sleep, find food, and stay clean, so i can look for a job, while being dressed presentably, and staying healthy. also i have been trying not to be a mooch, but every single penny i have had has gone towards food and laundry and i don't accept kindness from many, or often for that matter.
i don't need you act all high and mighty towards me. the only real reason i take such a stance with is because i feel that almost every single time you comment me, you over analyze what i say, you talk from a "this is the way it should be point of view, your doing it wrong, i am not going to even hint at why though either", and you seem more pretentious than even i am.
i think that is a mixed blessing though, because i am seeing what I am doing wrong here, and note the capitalization. over all, your words haven't been helpful, but you, yourself, your personality, how you have acted towards me, and also how i have reacted to you, have helped me.
you may have read a comment by me saying that i want to go to bed with a woman, but that in no way meant sex. i find that i feel more secure about myself, if i have someone to go to bed next to and wake up next to in the morning. my main point i am trying to bring up with most of my sex related posts, is that we give more importance to it than it rightfully has. most of america is sex addict, or at least addicted to sexual arousal.
i don't want to go to bed with a woman not because i feel like less a man, without someone, but to me it is a comfort to be able to have someone that close to you, especially when a lot of the loved ones that i have had, have died. i have never really had a family. it is always dysfunctional at best. there are other more personal reasons other than what makes me confortable but that really is none of your business, now is it? & i still don't mean sex.
please, do not talk to me for a while, the absence would be much appreciated, and while i am telling you to fuck off, i am not saying it is permanent. i am just truly infuriated by what you think you know of me, you have been a very rude person towards me, i have returned it in kind, i will admit, but that is who i am. i am not trying to say i am better than you or anybody. you should try to avoid absolute statements, the don't become anybody.
i hope i haven't pissed anyone off with what i have told her, but i am truly offended by her words towards myself and i hope that this, my declaration of official pissed-offness, will at least show to some that i am not trying to start fights.
this is my declaration of official pissed-offness and i don't need a stupid "flag user" option to take advantage of, because i don't need the help of the administration of this website to point out that i believe that she can be an assuming, overly corrective person and that find her to be rude. i am not going to be vindictive about this. now how is that for maturity?
that's all folks, i am going to go to bed now, alone.
Yours truly,
.demosthenes
whatever, do what you want. it probably won't change much since you have been doing what you want all along.
i got my facts straight when you first told me. don't sweat it. i furthered the explanation of phenomena, in greater detail, without your damn sources, and still you said i was completely wrong.
i was saying that there is more to it than just the blood flow, you didn't prove me wrong by just repeating yourself, so i don't see why you think me still completely wrong and you in the absolute right. i have been saying that neither of us were right, and that is something that i am sure that everyone could agree to. i just didn't edit my blog. you could have just as easily said, "semen isn't in there, buddy, sperm is."
personally i don't see why they, the article writers are taking it so literally, i mean, "blue because of the excess of blood in them" they get more pinkish, not bluer. also there is that phrase, black and blue, like bruising, which swells, due to blood vessels rupturing, and it is sensitive to touch. i think that is more of where the term originated, but who can prove that? no one, so it doesn't matter, now does it?
i am not trying to get this "salty" like you say. i just don't like your word choice, in many ways it only seems like criticizing what i write and my character, and is definitely not encouraging, or constructive.
i don't need a tutor, i don't see why you have taken it upon yourself try to be, either. i do appreciate you trying to correct me on my writing, though. hopefully in the future, you could be a little bit more buddy buddy, and not so much of this "your incorrect, look at this, look how i found out your are wrong" type stuff, and a little bit more "seriously, dude, check this out, you might want to edit your blog thing."
these blogs can be edited, you know, these things aren't final. to tell you the truth i completely forgot about that sentence.
maybe i am not taking these things seriously enough, yes, but child, i am not, nor do i appreciate being called such, not by many and certainly not by you.
i hope in the future, you don't assume to much about me. you don't know me, you know this. and you don't even know if even i am horny. so you can nix that too. sex is kind of the least thing on my mind. for a good number of reason, aside from my aversions to it, regardless of the fact that it pretty much is useless, to me and many other people, and if anyone brings up the fact that it is fun, they can just go fuck themselves. i don't care. go have your fucking dumb retarded fun, do you know how stupid all of us look, while in the throes of sex? it is a pretty disgusting, albeit, necessary practice. it definitely isn't the be all end all on things. and neither are you ediblewoman, so tone your self importance down a tad, because it doesn't become you. not at all.
right now pretty much all i care about is caring for myself. i am virtually homeless, i am lucky enough to be able to stay at a friends house for a few more days. for the past six months it has been a constant battle for a place to sleep, find food, and stay clean, so i can look for a job, while being dressed presentably, and staying healthy. also i have been trying not to be a mooch, but every single penny i have had has gone towards food and laundry and i don't accept kindness from many, or often for that matter.
i don't need you act all high and mighty towards me. the only real reason i take such a stance with is because i feel that almost every single time you comment me, you over analyze what i say, you talk from a "this is the way it should be point of view, your doing it wrong, i am not going to even hint at why though either", and you seem more pretentious than even i am.
i think that is a mixed blessing though, because i am seeing what I am doing wrong here, and note the capitalization. over all, your words haven't been helpful, but you, yourself, your personality, how you have acted towards me, and also how i have reacted to you, have helped me.
you may have read a comment by me saying that i want to go to bed with a woman, but that in no way meant sex. i find that i feel more secure about myself, if i have someone to go to bed next to and wake up next to in the morning. my main point i am trying to bring up with most of my sex related posts, is that we give more importance to it than it rightfully has. most of america is sex addict, or at least addicted to sexual arousal.
i don't want to go to bed with a woman not because i feel like less a man, without someone, but to me it is a comfort to be able to have someone that close to you, especially when a lot of the loved ones that i have had, have died. i have never really had a family. it is always dysfunctional at best. there are other more personal reasons other than what makes me confortable but that really is none of your business, now is it? & i still don't mean sex.
please, do not talk to me for a while, the absence would be much appreciated, and while i am telling you to fuck off, i am not saying it is permanent. i am just truly infuriated by what you think you know of me, you have been a very rude person towards me, i have returned it in kind, i will admit, but that is who i am. i am not trying to say i am better than you or anybody. you should try to avoid absolute statements, the don't become anybody.
i hope i haven't pissed anyone off with what i have told her, but i am truly offended by her words towards myself and i hope that this, my declaration of official pissed-offness, will at least show to some that i am not trying to start fights.
this is my declaration of official pissed-offness and i don't need a stupid "flag user" option to take advantage of, because i don't need the help of the administration of this website to point out that i believe that she can be an assuming, overly corrective person and that find her to be rude. i am not going to be vindictive about this. now how is that for maturity?
that's all folks, i am going to go to bed now, alone.
Yours truly,
.demosthenes
i am not a male so i guess i cant really answer your question but great blog.
ha!
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