The movie "When Harry Met Sally" is wonderful. It really got me thinking though. Can women and men be friends? Is it really possible to never have any sort of physical or mental attraction to a friend of the oppsite sex?
Men and women are very different creatures and have very different thought processes naturally. I have had many guy friends, but that was when I was in a relationship. Now I am recently single after almost 3 years of dating, and I have no idea what to expect. I am still only 18, but in my future will I have male friends that are actually just friends? I think of course! Can we ever really know though? I know people will respond to this and say "I have male friends and we are just friends." How do you ever really know though? Sally and Harry thought that for 12 years, but that is a movie.
Americans are raised in a culture with double standards between genders. Example, a co-worker of the opposite sex compliments you on the way you look one day and you assume that they are hitting on you. Now somebody of the same sex says the same thing in the same way, and they are being nice. Most of the time I just take the compliment as is, but so many women think it is a move from the man, or vice versa.
In our society today is it truly possible to do this? To be friends with somebody of the opposite sex without attraction, without people judging, and without significant others becoming jealous? Can a man and a woman ever just be normal, healthy, good friends? I sure hope so, because I really don't like women all that much.
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i read this tudy that said that men and women could only friends if:
1. one of the person is a lesbian or gay
2. Was friends, experimented in a relationship, and decide that they were better off as friends
3. One or both of them are in a loving relationship with another person therefore they are not romantically attracted to each other.
So, what do you think? OF the three reason why women and men are friends, do you agree with these three points.
Absolutely I think those may be the only reasons, but you never know.
I agree though.
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Personally I think its impossible to "just be friends." Someone inevitably ends up liking the other. Perhaps the attraction is not MUTUAL, but it is there nonetheless.
Even if someone is lesbian/gay I think that there can still be attraction (and with the amount of hormone charged guys running around today looking for three-somes, lesbians have actually become very attractive. And how many times have you thought a guy was super cute only to find out that he was gay?).
If two people were were in a friends-relationship-just friends scenario, there is still attraction there. They've just harnessed it.
As for people who are in loving relationships--this actually makes people more attractive to others because they are happy.
Also, I forgot to mention that I love when harry met sally!
I love that movie too. :]
And yea I agree, it can happen with gay/lesbian people too, I just used opposite sex because I was linking my thoughts to the movie.
Also, I agree that people convince themselves that are not attracted to a friend of theirs just because they don't want to be, but they naturally can't help it. I have heard that people find people in relationships more attractive as well and I find that very interesting!
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I am not a big fan of love type movies. Except for the notebook,titanic, and atonement even though that movie was soooo depressing. But I may watch that movie if it comes on. I am not quite sure if guys can be just friends with girls or visa versa. I used to have alot of guy friends and they would always try to persuade me to break up with what ever boyfriend I was with and date them. Not all of them but most. They would annoy me so badly that I would have to stop being their friend. I believe sometimes guys and girls can be friends I guess it just depends. Normally females (although I am one, no offense to me or you) always screw me over, back stab me and were evil. So I would have guy friends because they didn't seem to do that as much. I have just had bad experiences with female friends. I will watch when harry met sally, it should come on TV sometime soon. The movie sounds similar to Brown sugar. That is a really good movie also!
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When Harry Met Sally is really different than most love stories, especially the ones you mentioned, I think you would like it! Ya, I agree with the girl thing, they have been less than reliable in my past for the most part. I still have a hard time being friends with guys because they (sometimes) aren't as reliable with planning things out etc. There are pros and cons to men and women relationships, but I prefer to try out my male friends for friendship rather than females. I don't need all the cattyness and attitudes that women have! I guess I will find out if men and women can be friends (strictly) over time, maybe I'll even post another blog about my adventure...!
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Sorry, double post. :]
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