Parenting
From a son’s perspective
Everyone looks to counselors for advice on how to raise children. My sister went to a counselor because her and my moms were having problems. Parents, just hear us out. Let us tell you how we feel about problems or situations that occur. In my opinion, a family is a team effort. There must be discipline, but out of love. Of course we will be mad at you and say that we hate you but from experience on your part, you know that it will benefit us in the long run. Don’t cast the first stone just yet. Look at a situation in our point of view. If we do something wrong, look at the extent of our disobedience. Parents half of American families split and find new partners. Understand that when my mother and my step father got together, it was nice. My mom looked happy since coming out of an abusive relationship. I didn’t have any reason not to like the guy she was with. He didn’t beat her or scream at her. Even though I liked him, after seeing my mother go through so much pain and heartache, I was worried that it was just going to be a cycle that I was trapped in. My mom married my step dad and I didn’t even know. Parents understand that this is a big mistake. You might feel that you’re in love, but it’s not just about you. Ask your children what they think about your new spouse before things get serious. A family is a team effort. Don’t ever neglect your children. There a part of your life no matter what. When I found out that my mom married him, she also asked me and my sister to move. My sister was telling me that mom was rushing it. We moved and for about 3 months everything was good. Then my stepfather started to order me and my sister around as if we owed him a debt. Here is another mistake that parents make. Don’t let your spouse discipline your kids. In our eyes they are a stranger that we don’t trust. It’s hard to trust somebody after your mother suffered severe punches and you were right there watching just wishing that you could help. Discipline your kids your way. You know your kids better than anyone else.
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I have never had a step parent so I don't fully understand, but I would feel the same as you. If they are an "extra" to the family then they should not be trying to order around their new children. They are trying to find a sense of responsibility by doing this but you are right it is a team effort. I don't know but I may understand more if my dad remarries. My mom died in 2006 in the hospital so I am in a bit of a different situtation but good blog!
Something people should know about:
http://www.progressiveu.org/032913-lupus-uncureable-wait-what
Discipline is a very touchy subject for some. It depends on the parent. I do agree that the step-parent should not discipline the children until rules and regulations have been set and everyone knows what is going on.
I agree to. Even in the normal family (mom dad daughter son) parents rush decisions and don't try to see the truth behind the situation. They just assume the worst and tell you how disappointed they are in you.