If there's one thing that bothers me more than anything in the world it is dead beat parents. I really don't understand these people who are fully capable of taking care of a baby, that decide when their born that they can't handle them and that they are too busy to have a child and all that crap.
If your going to let a guy or a woman get into your pants, you need to be responsible and make it clear in your mind and in your partner's mind that there is a great chance that you could be parents someday. There are so many lonely kids that wonder everyday why did my real mommy not want me? What in the world did I do? Was I a bad baby?
Or there are those kids that everyday suffer with dead beat parents who treat them like crap, abusing them, telling them they were mistakes, saying that they are worthless, or just abandoning them or leaving them alone with someone who is irresponsible or a drug addict or with a mother or a father that can't support their selves let alone a baby or a child. There are kids that sit in their beds every night, crying wondering what they are doing wrong and why mommy or daddy left.
Some people, in my opinion should not ever be aloud to have children, just the thought of some irresponsible person having a baby and deciding to leave it at the hospital or take it home and neglect it makes me sick to my stomach. Children are precious. The things that we as a human race do to some of our babies when we are pregnant is atroshis!!! Smoking, getting drunk, not eating, trying to miscarriage, eating solely junk, and doing drugs while their is another human inside of you that is neglected and harmed or benefitted by everything that you do.
I'm sorry, but teenagers should not try to be parents. You can't even take care of yourself most of the time, I bet you 9 out of 10 teenage mothers still are fighting with their parents about cleaning their rooms! How are you going to bathe and feed and comfort a baby when you can't even clean your room!? A better future for America? If you can't take care of a baby, and you know for sure that you would hurt than child more than you would help them, KEEP YOUR PANTS ON. You aren't benefitting anyone, especially not that child.
Some facts about Child Abandonment:
1. It is very illegal unless you leave the child at a hospital: which is considered a "Safe" place.
2. Definition: A parent's failure to provide any financial assistance to or communicate with his or her child over a period of time. When this happens, a court may deem the child abandoned by that parent and order that person's parental rights terminated. Abandonment also describes situations in which a child is physically abandoned -- for example, left on a doorstep, delivered to a hospital or put in a trash can. Physically abandoned children are usually placed in orphanages and made available for adoption. (Source: http://www.nolo.com/definition.cfm/Term/2FD15744-8F8E-4892-9F6197155D7B4CAD/alpha/A/)
3. Give your baby to someone who can help: a doctor's office, the police, a foster care agency, the hospital, a family member, a family resource agency. Any responsible adult will care for the baby until other caregivers can be found. (Source: http://www.saferchild.org/abandone.htm)
4. A lot of agencies are looking for dead beat parents so they can be properly identified and found to be prosecuted.
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Purely Caity's Thoughts =)
From Experience, I am a child of a semi-dead beat dad, he abandoned me once for a two and half year period and before that he wasn't that great, making promises that never came true and choosing women over me and he wasn't around too much. Things are a bit better now, we have started talking again and things are getting much better. People please think of the life you could effect before you have sex and make sure that you can be the parent that child needs, we don't need another case of suicide because a child thought that they were the flawed one, they aren't flawed, the parents and/or manufactuers of the child are the ones who are flawed. Some people literally have seven or eight kids and they don't care a thing about it, that's just another 9 months they get to sit around and collect checks.
I'm so confused. Why is it only "legal" to abandon a baby at a hospital? Not that I think they should legalize it for other places... but why make it legal in one building but not another?
Most of the cases I hear about people abandoning children by leaving them on the doorstep of a building are left in, like, churches. Are they not safe? Okay - priest jokes aside... still, I'm sure you catch my meaning :)
If it's illegal to abandon your baby - it should be illegal no matter where you left that baby.
I am glad to hear that you and your father are working past his mistakes. I wish you luck with that. It can be hard to not have a parent when you're young - especially when you know you could have had one... You're very "big" to be able to overlook his mistakes and allow him the chance to make amends and start over.
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I understand what you mean, but they say there are only "Safe zones" such as the hospital or a foster care place, you can only abandon your child in certain buildings, it's quite ridiculous, and thanks for what you said about me and my dad =)
Caity =)
From what I understand, you can't actually just abandon the child in most states. You actually have to hand the child over to someone, preferably a healthcare worker at a hospital. They would prefer that you answer questions (especially medical history type stuff) but you don't have to give them your name or anything. They started this in order to keep people from abandoning unwanted babies or killing them outright as some people do when they give birth to an unwanted child. If you just drop the child off on a doorstop to a church in most states, you'll go to jail for abandonment if they are lucky enough to find you. What I don't understand about the safe surrender laws is that most states only allow 72 hours... leaving the door open for abandonment after that 72 time frame for safe surrender has expired. Some states give anywhere from 30-45 days after birth to safely surrender, which makes more sense to me.
http://www.safesurrendersite.com/load/safe-surrender-law
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Fallon
"It is never too late to give up your prejudices." Henry David Thoreau
"In case of dissension, never dare to judge till you've heard the other side." Euripides
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It's really sad, like I said I don't understand how someone could just give up their child, just like that.
Caity =)
I dont either, but I'd rather someone who doesn't want the kid give the child up than keep the child and take out the frustration of having an unwanted child on said child.
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Fallon
"It is never too late to give up your prejudices." Henry David Thoreau
"In case of dissension, never dare to judge till you've heard the other side." Euripides
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A very valid point, I was reading a case study and a woman tried to flush her baby down the toliet! It was sad, people are crazy.
Caity =)
well, what's better? being able to leave your baby at a hospital where you know it will be taken care of and have the chance for a better life, or leaving it in a dumpster/ flushing it down the toilet? the reason there are "safe zones" is because you have to realize that not everyone thinks like you, and some people do have children that they don't want--yeah, it sucks, it sucks big time, but isn't it better to dry and do something about it to help the kid?
--stacie
It is better just leave a child protected than to harm it or keep it and neglect it. It's just terrible how people can have babies and just give them up like that, I don
t think, even if I had been raped, I could five up the baby, regardless of who had raped me, that's just my personal opinion, but yes safe zones are a good thing if you are going to abandon your child, do it somewhere that they will be safe.
Caity =)