Sometimes the nice girl gets sick of waiting

daiseylou22's picture

A friend found this a long time ago, and although it's been slightly edited, I find it very applicable today. This is my tribute to the nice girls. To the nice girls who are overlooked, who become friends and nothing more, who spend hours fixating upon their looks and their personalities and their actions because it must be they that are doing something wrong. This is for the girls who don't give it up on the first date, who don't want to play mind games, who provide a comforting hug and a supportive audience for a story they've heard a thousand times. This is for the girls who understand that they aren't perfect and that the guys they're interested in aren't either, for the girls who flirt and laugh and worry and obsess over the slightest glance, whisper, touch, because somehow they are able to keep alive that hope that maybe... maybe this time he'll have understood. This is an homage to the girls who care more than they should for guys who don't deserve their attention. This is for those girls who have been in the trenches, who have watched other girls time and time again fake up and make up and fuck up the guys in their lives without saying a word. This is for the girls who have been there from the beginning and have heard the trite words of advice, from "there are plenty of fish in the sea," to "time heals all wounds." This is to honor those girls who know that guys are just as scared as they are, who know that they deserve better, who are seeking to find it. This is for the girls who have never been in love, but know that it's an experience that they don't want to miss out on. This is for the girls who have left sad song lyrics in their away messages, who have tried to make someone understand through a subliminally appealing profile, who have time and time again dropped their male friend hint after hint after hint only to watch him chase after the first blonde girl in a skirt. This is for the girls who have been told that they're too good or too smart or too pretty, who have been given compliments as a way of breaking off a relationship, who have ever been told they are only wanted as a friend. So don't say you're on the lookout for nice girls, guys, when you pass us up on every step you take. Sometimes we go undercover; sometimes we go in disguise: sometimes when that girl in the low cut shirt or the too tight miniskirt won't answer your catcalls, sometimes you're looking at a nice girl in whore's clothing - - we might say we like the attention, we might blush and giggle and turn back to our friends, but we're all thinking the same thing: "This isn't me. Tomorrow morning, I'll be wearing a teeshirt and flannel shorts, I'll have slept alone and I'll be making my hungover best friend breakfast. See through the disguise. See me." You never do. Why? Because you only see the exterior. You don't want the nice girl.. so don't say you're looking for a relationship: relationships take time and energy and intent, three things we're willing to extend - - but in return, we're looking for compassion and loyalty and trust, three things you never seem willing to express. Maybe nice guys finish last, but in the race they're running they're chasing after the whores and the sluts and the easy-targets... the nice girls are waiting at the finish line with water and towels and a congradulatory hug (and yes, if she's a nice girl and she likes you, the sweatiness probably won't matter), hoping against hope that maybe you'll realize that they're the ones that you want at the end of that silly race. Sometimes the nice girl gets sick of waiting. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. -Proverbs 31

DanseRusse's picture

Bravo. I know exactly what you mean.

aKATIEaffair's picture

that is amazing. you came out and said it and left nothing out. i'm proud.

Briane's picture

You need not worry.

In time the nice guys grow up, learn and end up with nice girls like you.

Trust me on this one!

~Old Fart

Amen girl. So true.

But for me at the end of the road, I don't want someone who got to get their kix on while I wasted my time being a "nice girl" waiting. I don't want someone who didn't and couldn't see me. I'm still a nice girl. But I don't want that guy when he "finally" realizes his mistake.

He can die lonely, without that blonde bimbo.

ooh, that was bitter. Sorry....
www.worldcantwait.com

everProgressive's picture

So like, am I the only one here who lives in a community full of nice guys and nice girls who don't do crap and end up marrying each other?

potentially.

www.worldcantwait.com

You seem pretty direct with the blog, but you keep mentioning all the hints you try to drop. (You may not refer to you, but you know what I mean)

Asking works. But if it isn't romantic enough for you, it's your choice to wait.

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