I had a girlfriend for two years. She ended the relationship with me. I still don't know why, nothing really went wrong. We got along quite well. She wanted something "else", not a boy, but I guess a lack of obligation. To find her future, or job, or calling on her own.
It's been a month or so.
We spent time together, and the backwards thing of it is, we still get along. It felt like we were once again a couple. My priorities are different now, I'm more future oriented as of late. She is too. So what's up? We get along better than the majority of couples I've encountered. We support one another, and ultimately, we try and not hold one another back, but with the ability to come back. (Alright, there's a few exceptions if she wants to come back, namely other males.)
The hard thing is. What to do with all these memories. Theirs so many. I forget half of them. Only recently had I figured out just how long life is. I have to remember all of this stuff. Now let's thing, five years down the road, and I'm with a different woman...maybe a wife. What about those memories of that other chick? What do you do with those? It's sort of awkward. Life gets messy, I feel like i'm going to spend the rest of it cleaning up messes of myself and others.
I just read a lot of articles about rape on here. I'm not sure how to gauge that. I often think "What is the justice in rape." LIke, revenge is futile anywhere, but even if a rapist repents and apologizes. That still messes up the psych of some chick. She has to live with those thoughts. Her boyfriend and parents do too. I've realized our minds can be our biggest obstacle...memories get in the way of the progress
Good luck to you
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Memories will never go away, that's for sure. But you will make new memories, and time will pass, and what happened so far in the past will just become the past. I lost one of the best relationships I'd ever had, and I kept thinking, "How will I not miss this person in 30 years as much as I miss this person now??" And here I am, two years later, and I've made myself new in spite of that loss. There will be other people - not that anyone can ever take her place. But eventually you will learn to not compare your new and amazing relationship with something in your past. What comes next will be better because what you learn from this experience.
You'll be okay, kiddo.
http://www.progressiveu.org/blog/kariskoett
"All things appear and disappear because of the concurrence of causes and conditions. Nothing ever exists entirely alone; everything is in relation to everything else."
-Buddha