Love Is Blind

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Love can make you do crazy things. Although... Nothing seems too crazy if you're committing the act for the one you love. Get knocked up. "Fall" in love. Jump off bridges. Commit suicide together - there's a classic. Thanks William. In my observations people become somebody else when they fall in love. A completely new person is born within a matter of minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years... The old person is completely forgotten to this new being; but outsiders to this birth can recall old memories of the person who once was. They remember laughing with them. Talking with them. Admiring how strong and together they seemed to be as a person.
Then they met him/her and it was great at first. They tell you about their first date. They entrust you with their secrets about this person. Are they the one? They openly consider this viewpoint with you, and you are happy to be involved. The longer they are "together" the further and further you get pushed aside. Your voice unheard, your viewpoint irrelevant, your importance forgotten. It doesn't matter that you once were their "go-to" person. It doesn't matter how much you admired them. It doesn't even matter how many times you address the fact that they are changing for the worst. They don't hear it. They hear wedding bells, and birds, and whatever else... I'm not really that sure on this part. The plan to phase you out has already begun.
You know it's gotten bad when they stop returning your calls. You know they have their phone on them. You have seen them do it to other callers hundreds of times. Their phone rings. They look at the I.D. They hit mute and continue doing whatever their doing. You know you're getting "Bitch Buttoned." It stings, but you can move on.
After a while you start to go numb to the fake, unfamiliar stranger that looks just like a person you once knew. They look like them and sound like them, but what they say and their actual mind set is warped and totally foreign to the person you thought you once knew.
Maybe you never really knew them; but this is probably not the case. Love can do crazy things to people. It made me depressed. It makes my mom fight with me. It made my best friend a complete stranger.
Sadly enough... Girls will be girls. They will be your friend until the end with those pauses and breaks along the way when they decide they want nothing to do with you. It's them and their boyfriend forever. Until one day she calls you up crying and incomprehensible; you will have to calm her down to understand what she's trying to say. What she's trying to say is that it's over. He broke up with her. After however many minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, or years they are done. She needs you. She wants to talk about what happened. She needs you to tell her that everything will be alright. She wont see how much hurt she has caused on you. She wont ask you about the last few minutes, hours, days, weeks, months or years of your life. She will forget about her negligence and look after her own heart. We all put ourselves as number one don't we? She was blinded by love, she didn't know what she was doing. It's your turn to play Judge. Hang up the phone and go back to your movie. Or tell her to FUCK herself and have a nice life. You wont do either. You're going to turn the movie off, throw on your jacket and slip on your shoes and head over to her house with a chick flick and a bucket of popcorn. You are going to tell her everything she wants to hear. You are going to play doctor to her heart. She needs you. You weren't blinded by her affection for her temporary playmate; but you are blinded by your love for her friendship.

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Member of the Progressive U Alumni Association

I have had alot of my friends blow me off for their "loves" it was annoying but finally I was sick of it.

One of my friends would bring her boyfriend with her everywhere and he would spend the night when I would spend the night at her house. It was our time, and often I felt left out. I still stuck by her but after awhile when she was no longer there I finally got a boyfriend and then she was calling me all the time. She would say you care for him more than me...well you like a dose of your own medicine?

My other friend I hadn't talked to in months randomly immed me and said "Austin broke up with me." I was like ok. So i talked her through it.

I got to a point where I said screw them because they all only wanted to call me when they felt like it. It lead me to end a 14,16, and 9 year cluster of friendships..leaving me with no friends. they all said it was my fault because they said you blew me off for your boyfriend. But they had already screwed up the friendship before they even knew it. love can do crazy things I agree

This was a good blog. You expressed your feeling well. I boosted your rating because I think it deserved more than 2 stars. :)

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Well thank you. I have to admit I haven't been on here for a while because I was busy and to be honest I felt like everyone just wanted to give their opinions. Like my opinion on something was a chance to get their two sense in too. Sometimes it feels good to just let everything out. Thank you for listening (reading.) It's usually the best thing you can do for some one who is in a difficult spot.

ashmoney's picture

Well thank you. I have to admit I haven't been on here for a while because I was busy and to be honest I felt like everyone just wanted to give their opinions. Like my opinion on something was a chance to get their two sense in too. Sometimes it feels good to just let everything out. Thank you for listening (reading.) It's usually the best thing you can do for some one who is in a difficult spot.

Member of the Progressive U Alumni Association

well first off...nice to read something from you...it's been a while since I have
but your blog made me sad...I'm in one of those new love situations right now...and I don't want to think about the if and when things get bad
I mean you are right love is blind...but that's the beauty of it

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VERN! It's nice to see you... Virtually! Thanks for reading my blog. The beauty of love being blind is that no matter how shitty of a situation you get in, you know you always have someone who will help you through it... Even if they are part of the problem. She has helped me so many times with boy problems, I know her new boyfriend means a lot to her and I support her. But I never once turned my back on her, and I don't think it's fair what she is doing.... Okay... You read my blog, you know how I feel; I wont get into it anymore. It's nice to see you again!

Member of the Progressive U Alumni Association

haha I know what you mean...and you're welcome...it was good
yeah I know what you mean...and how you feel about it...you'll have to let me know what's up

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