Sitting here I've come to realize that there really arent any "Good Guys" out there, an if there is they are only the Momms boys or the ones that are just as evil as the rest but they play it safe and never get cought.
There arent any "Good Girls " either theres only those that they tell you up front "I'm not looking for anything serious" which means:
"I'll go out with you, but I'm seeing other guys so dont expect me to treat you like your Royalty orlike your the only one"
It sucks really to know that theres millions of people out there and their all capable of screwing you over. YOu think maybe this one will be different if I treat them better or treat them this way but in the end it comes down to the fact that if your not around them whats to keep them from touching. Everyone always says "I can look but I cant touch" well if your looking thats bad enough. Some girls find it hard to be serious beause the guy doesnt show them their place in their life.
The "yea we're friends" line means its nice to see you hang out and fuck but I dont see you as anything other then that. An maybe that isnt true in all cases, but most of the time it is.
Depending on the girl and that means most girls dont want to hear "friends" they want to hear something alittle more intament. Personaly I beleive that if a girl is willing enough to sleep with a person it means their above their friends, wheither thats relationship matterial or just some social dating all depends. But most people want someone they can have a good time with, relaxe around and get a few kissese (or what ever) here and there. Its wrong to keep said person in the dark, lie about being into other people, to not set boundries before going on, and flonting it infront of their face.
Its perfecetly ok for two people to hang but when one of the others goes and starts geting serious with another person then they should infrom that their "seriously interested" in someone else. And not string their "friend" along, beause what if that friend has a few more feelings then wanting to be "friends"...
First of all, I highly suggest you do a spell check before you post. People generally respond better to higher quality blog posts.
Secondly, I'm not exactly sure what you're trying to say. On one hand, you say there's no such thing as a 'good boy' or a 'good girl'. Then you say girls and guys can't be friends, because one will undoubtedly start cheating on the other, but that doesn't make sense because some girls and guys can really just be friends, not friends with benefits or anything.
Case in point... one of my closest friends last year was a guy. He's... 25, I think, and married. I'm 19 and in a serious relationship. You think it once crossed my mind that we were anything but friends? I've also met his wife, and I'm nothing like her. Sure, I think he admires me, because I get better grades than he does, and have loftier goals, but that doesn't mean he's attracted to me in any way.
In high school, most of my friends were guys, because I didn't connect with girls very well. As far as I know, only one of them had a crush on me, and wanted to be more than friends. And pushing away people because you DON'T want to be in a relationship with them is just stupid.
And I don't know what sort of girls you know, but the girls I know don't go out and sleep with anything that moves.
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there are actually a lot of good guys and good girls out there. It just takes time and cautiousness from your part.
I understand where you're coming from, because there are girls and guys out there who can totally screw you over. But I think it's unfair to say that boys and girls are NEVER just friends. I personally have lots of guy friends that are really just friends, and I know plenty of people who are the same.
I'm gay,
I'm friends with lots of girls, and that is all we are. I know at this point in your life you may feel this way, but trust me, there are people who you are just friends with.
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You can't use absolute terms like "there aren't ANY good guys" because you actually haven't met every guy or girl out there. That aside, you must have some bad experiences with dating, but just know that good relationships can exist. And also, there are definitely good people out there, I actually know several of them. I hope you have better luck with your relationships.
I think you're right on some level. I think at some point in every male-female friendship, one person is attracted to the other. As far as being fuck buddies though, I don't think that that is necessarily true. I have several guy friends that I've thought were cute and they're nice guys, but we've never had any physical contact beyond the occasional hug. I will say though, that if a girl sleeps with someone and says its ok to "just be friends" she probably wants more but is trying not to be clingy or needy and hoping that it will turn into something more. or maybe she's just horny but doesn't want to be serious. who knows. lol, even I don't understand women.
either the guy want the girl or its the opposite...as we get older it is hard to stay friends with anyone, so if a guy and agirl remain good friends then there is probably a underlying sexual reason