What is love? Baby dont hurt me....

I have come to the undestanding, or think Ive come to the understanding, that love is embodied by two beings, or souls if you will. Without the other love cannot flourish; obviously. With that love comes a genuine feeling of bliss. That other being is the completion of our being and with this completion comes that happiness.

Now, I know that sounds completely cheezy saying that someone can supposedly complete you, but bear with me. Now to fully explain what I mean by this I can only give an example. If you know my mother, you know that shes pretty relaxed about the majority of stuff that life throws at her. I have never met a more courageous and strong woman in my life as of yet. But today, without my dad by her side, I had never seen a more anxious and frightened person before. I mean, I had to calm her down a few times. She was so worked up over the idea of having to lead me and my brother around in Paris without my dad, who is the supposed brave one.

Now getting back to the point. In the few moments I have seen my mom at her weakest, my dad is MIA. And I obviously believe my parents are in love, especially after all the stuff theyve been through together. Today I just put the dots together. My mom is only the relaxed courageous person I know because my dad gives her that strength. And for my dads sake, as much as he tries to be the stereotypical hard ass Red Forman kind of dad, he is the biggest sweetheart for my mom.

And the reason I say its shared between two beings is because it is completely rediculous to think that love can only occur between a man and a woman. If you find completion in someone its purely beautiful; regardless of sex, ethnicity, disabilities or whatever else you think can inhibit love. In the same respect I would go as far as to claim that these couples are even more in love because they have found so much beauty in all the worlds ugly so they can appreciate that beauty more than some of us can.

Now I still think the idea of my 14 year old brother having a girlfriend is completely rediculous. But who am i to judge? We all wanted the same thing in 8th grade/freshman year. But looking back on it, that was probably the worst idea some of us had ever had. In retrospect, we were still quote unquote so young. The supposed serious relationships that lasted all but a matter of months? Seriously now. Not only did we (and some of us still do) lack the maturity necessary for holding down a serious steady relationship at that point in our lives, but we also lacked the maturity to handle the ending of said relationship. At that point in our lives (right now for some of us) we still had yet to figure out who we are as people. What irritates the crap out of me even still today is when people would change who they are so they match with their love interest of the week.

And from day one, we are told sex is bad. I dont necessarily think that is true. I know some people pride themselves on both their virginity and the number of people theyve slept with. Wonderful. Go you. And good luck to those who are waiting till marriage....youll need it. I do believe that there is a time and a place for sex. I believe that if you feel a strong connection with someone, dare I say it, and are in love with someone that sex will play a role in that relationship. I do not think sex everyday is really necessary though. Im just not an advocat of the one night stands.

People change to be loved. In my opinion, I think it should be the other way around. It should be that love that makes you want to change. It isnt that you need to be perfect to be loved. I mean any of you who know me well, know that the guys I have a tendancy to fall for can be complete dorks the majority of the time. Im going off on a tangent here, but I guess what Im trying to say here is that love someone for who they really are and when that person is faced with a difficult situation it should be your love that empowers them to rise to whatever occasion and better themselves. They shouldnt have to better themselves and bend over backwards for your love.

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