I can't take it anymore.
I want to know why is that we feel OBLIGATED to a person as soon as they ask us to be their girlfriend?
Dwayne ( my boyfriend ) and I have been going out for 2+ years. Pretty long, I know. We have been through hell and back. My parents did everything in their power to keep us apart but that did not work. Eventually they accepted him as my boyfriend. Of course, it was under the terms that:
→ I went to school & stay focused.
→ I did not do anything foolish that might get me into a bad situation.
→ I promised to respect myself.
So far, I've went by those terms. Those were my parents rules. I followed. Now, DWAYNE has his own set of rules.
→ He has to know where I am at all times.
→ Talking to other people on ( preferrably guys ) is a big no-no.
→ I must act in a "girlfriend" way. ( whatever that is )
I mean he's not a bad person, but I find myself rebelling against some of this. It's getting him mad cause I've found this new feeling and it's like WAIT! Hey, I don't have to do everything you tell me to do. I'm my own person, I'm not 5. This is my life!
He's got a probelem with certain clothing I like and as I'm getting older, my style is changing - A LOT. I don't take life as serious. I don't worry about things like I used to. I don't know if it's wrong to feel like he's holding me down because I am changing a lot on him.
He's 22, he's been there, done that. Why is it so hard for him to understand me?
• 
• 
• 
• 
• 
• 
• 
Wow
Love is blind..dang girl! GET OUT. NOW.
That is a BAD relationship. It is to controlling, and would already be considered mentally abusive by most.
It is not wrong to feel like he is holding you down-HE IS. You really need to get out, this relationship sounds so unhealthy...:(
It's YOUR life, why are you letting anyone else control it? Take hold of your own life and don't let anyone push you around. You aren't a little girl anymore, you're a woman who is capable of making your own choices.
Not letting you talk to other guys? Talk about insecurity.
"He's Just Not that Into You" is a book written by one of the writers of the show sex and the city. It will give you a whole new guideline as to how to view your relationship. Maybe he's not the guy for you. Give it a glance. It can't hurt. It helped me alot.
I get the sense you're a bit younger than your boyfriend? I can speak from experience in the sense that I once dated an older woman, and I've found that the whole control issue is a big thing for them. Why? Well, for one, why're they even interested in someone much younger than them? Why isn't someone of their own calibre appealing to them? Sure, sure, you can say you're extremely mature for your age yodda yodda... I did, and yes,I was mature in a lot of senses but I was immature in the key issue at the moment: relationships.
He's dating you because you're younger and he feels more confidence in it. Whereas, if he were dating a girl of his own age he may feel a little insecure about the situation and even inferior to her. But in your case, he can feel confident and... yes... in control. Take it from a guy who's sitting in the dressing room listening to all the ridiclous chauvanistic guy stories -- he's going into this for the control.
Like a previous commentered said, love is blind. Either you're madly in love with this guy or you're just entirely too tolerable. With my girlfriend, it was that I was so head over hills for her... and why not? A dazzling person who takes a kid and shows him what dates and a night on the town are all about, who wouldn't fall for that? I really think you do need to get out of the relationship for a number of reasons.
How old are you anyhow? I don't get the impression you're ready to settle down and get married at the moment anyhow. 2 Years is entirely too long for a younger lady, you've missed out on a lot of potential rewarding relationships and lessons.
The one thing I realized about my previous relationships is that I always learned a little more about myself and gained that much experience from the situation :)
Hope I've helped.