Does anyone secretly crave to be raped? I was repeatedly incestuously raped as a child and subsequently gained a lot of weight. (I became a night eater, and became addicted to Ambien and Vicodin).
There are patterns observed between rape, incest, and obesity. In one study, it was found that 30 percent of all heavy women had been sexually penetrated (pleasurably or otherwise) by a family member. Another study found that nearly 1/6 of all males have practiced some experimentation with another member of the famliy. This is accompanied by much stigma, whether it is enjoyable and concentual or whether it is a rebuffed contact met with force.
I sometimes am told that gaining weight is a "protective cocoon" for those who have expreienced incestuous experiences. I would be interested in knowing about others' experiences, positive or negative, relating to incest, being raped, or the creation of a special "rape bed" by a family member, which the father of one of my friends kept for her. I know this is a sensitive topic, so please treat it as such. No profanity, please. I am a christian.
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I experienced sexual molestation and rape from my stepfather from a young age. I don't think it effected my weight much, but it did confuse my gender roles. I'm a boy, but he preferred me to look, walk, and talk like a girl. Therefore, I've grown up thinking those things were normal.
It's just something I've grown accustomed to. I never much gained weight because I hardly ever ate. I was depressed and angry a lot of the time, and now I have issues with getting close to people. I don't like touching others, or being touched. I don't like sex.
I think it effects everyone differently, especially between girls and boys the type of molestation that occurs. I know I'd be different if it had been my mom that had done that to me, rather than my stepdad.
It's interesting to think about, though, if a bit painful. The most important thing to understand is, regardless of what the consequences have become, the rape/molestation wasn't the person's fault. I know it wasn't my fault that I was raped, and I didn't deserve that. No one does.
This is a great topic I think i'll blog about it.
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Sometimes young women believe that by making themselves less attractive(gaining weight) they can prevent the experience from every happening again. I've never been sexual molested but I know a girl who has and she admits now that she overate to prevent any one from looking at her in a sexual way in the future. She just didn't want it to happen again.
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I admit I welcomed an encounter in my younger days. I would "accidentally" tuck the back of my dress in my panty waistband and hop around on all my uncles' laps like a two-bit ...I knew exactly what I was doing because I could FEEL the effect I had on them and I bounced around and "play" wrestled with them. No one took the bait until I stayed late in Jr. High and the janitor got me alone in the pottery kiln room. I still can't go to fleam markets with pottery dealers. I find myself fixing my stockings in the supermarket and bending over seductively, although sadly, my obecity "cocoon" is now about 300 lbs. :(
I thought I was the only one obsessed with this. Even in my preteen years I would purposely run out into the family room when my male cousins and drunken uncles were around, and pull my panties to one side of my labia so that they were visible as the guys smoked. One by one, they did take up on my "offer," and I was slightly ashamed but also VERY titillated by it all. I even now stage "rape scenes" in public parks where I am "discovered" in a state of semi undress, my bra and panties thrown aside on a pile of leaves as I am "found" close to a mattress which was dumped at the site. Rape isn't quite what I call it. It's "TAPE." A Total Ass Positioning Event. My ass poised for the world to see!
Hi Teenyjonbenet
For purposes of this argument it may help to solidify your reasoning and assertions by citing your sources. Such as where you found these alleged studies and can you link to them?
Remember, not all of your readers will have read these studies, and without the proper citations, you run the risk of plagiarism and of not being trusted by your readers.
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would you want her sources, the mattress ordeal sounds more like a planted sexual scenario than a study, and hardly something one would proudly ask to have shared. Working girls don't share corners, do they?
Hi GeorgousDeluxe;
Like I said, providing her sources would solidify her assertions that there were studies pointing to these numbers that she quoted.
Without citing these studies, there is a risk of being accused of plagiarism (borrowing the work of another without giving proper credit); additionally, the users of this site tend to be a bit critical when quoting information, and many of them like to cross-reference such things. Without being offered the proper sources, they may or may not believe the author.
By no means am I telling the author that she has to provide these sources; I only offered advice that would solidify her blog and prevent any potential problems from arising.
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Yeah TeenyJon, give 'em up!
That's not how the writer truly feels. He/she has left comments on other blogs that contradict everything written here.
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Please don't speak for how I feel, and bring my gender into question so that my opinions (which may change, thank you very much!) seem implausible. Stick to YOU and we'll all be quite fine.
Please don't follow me from one blog to the next, a blog to which you haven't contributed anything but stalking and a personal attack. You can't speak for how I feel, and bring my gender into question so that my opinions (which may change, thank you very much!) seem implausible. Stick to YOU and we'll all be quite fine.
Please don't follow me from one blog to the next, a blog to which you haven't contributed anything but stalking and a personal attack. You can't speak for how I feel, and bring my gender into question so that my opinions (which may change, thank you very much!) seem implausible. Stick to YOU and we'll all be quite fine.