For the past few days, that has been the thing I have been thinking about. What I realized tonight was that I don't even know what closure is. Everyone talks about it, and I am sure that it is very important, and it makes everyone feel better, but I don't understand what it is, or how you get it. How do you know whether or not you have it? It almost seems like a mythical thing that people talk about, but no one would be able to describe. It changes from situation to situation, person to person. I wrote a paper about a personal experience, and my teacher told me that it was sweet, but the conclusion needed closure. I told him that the reason it doesn't have closure is because I don't have closure, but I am not sure if that is true. My friend is making me find out tomorrow. I am going to do the most dificult, uncomfortable, awkward thing of my life. I don't know if I want to do it. I want to, but for different reasons, and I don't want to, for the same reasons. I don't understand my feelings, and I don't understand how one phone call will help me understand it all.
Does anyone know what closure is?
Closure
By Readingkt6 - Posted on February 23rd, 2008
Closure is like a clear and definate, definable end to something. I definately think that closure is the best way to end something (it's usually used to discribe a relationship, romantic or otherwise) because I can feel satisfied knowing that it is over. Without it, it's sort of like things are left messy and sort of fade away. Closure is a nice, clean, ending. I hope my attempted definition helped shead some light for you!
I agree with what 1060601 said -- closure is a "nice, clean, ending" and it is a definite end to something.
But I think what you're asking is more of a personal question, not a question of what the word "closure" actually means. Closure for an individual is based on so many things -- the circumstances, the situation, the people involved, but most importantly the individual's will to come to peace, or "closure" with something. It is up to the individual alone to have a strong enough will to finally come to closure with something -- and usually it's a long, difficult process since the person is struggling with their own feelings. Once they are able to get past their feelings and come to terms with everything, then can closure finally be achieved.
Closure is just one of those things that you know it when it happens. To me (I know it sounds so poetic) but it is like the wind. It's just there. You really don't know when it will blow, but when it does you just feel it.
There are really no rules on closure. Everyone has their own way of receiving, accepting and fulfilment.
One piece of advice I will offer is TIME. It is so funny the way time has a way of healing all wounds and providing closure.
Just like when you have a cut.
It hurts and looks bad. Then the next day it still hurts but a little less, it looks slightly better. The day after that the cut starts to close, the day after that it hurts even more less so on and so forth. Then before you know it you have a irritating itch, then before you know it the cut is completely healed as if it never exsisted.
Closure works the same way if you just allow it time.
I just played the hand I was dealt..... I'm just playin to win ;-) (rapper 2Pac)
Closure comes in time... you can't really prepare for it. It will just come to you when the time is right. Of course, depending on the situation, closure may not always seem permanent. There might be times of doubt, but just have faith and that peace will come back.