What do you do when a parent has a stroke and needs your help to survive?
My father in law had a stroke. My husband and I were living our lives as we knew them looking out for him from a distance. He now lives with us in a tiny 3 bedroom house. He is providing a wealth of knowledge for our children and the example we set will teach them compassion for people who are older then them.
My husbands brother lives in Texas. He has a ton of money and could help out his dad anyway possible.We don't want his money.He can support pop from a distance through talking and encouragement. He just can't be there for him because his job requires travel. My husband and I are getting by but wouldn't dream of walking away from him. I believe he is giving us everything by passing on that wealth of experience he has had living in his 70 years.
While watching the history channel today I learned more about him by listening him talking then I ever knew after being in his life for the past 15 years.
I always wanted a grandfather. Mine was 500 miles away in New York. We saw him once a year. My kids get the privilage of coming home and puting their arms around him and telling them about their day. He gets to show them tolerance and patience. Something 2 teenagers really need.My 6 year old now has a lap to sit on when I am doing my work in college.
I am in psychology right now. I am able to determine what side of the brain was affected by his right stroke. So many things you take for granted. This man worked his entire life and retired. He housed me and my family when we had no place to go. He has always shown my children love. He is part of our family.
I can only hope that the 11 whining german sheppard puppies our dog was nice enough to bless us with don't drive hime crazy!
I was so angry at him for a while. I wanted to move out of state and start a new life but we couldn't leave him behind. Now I thank God we didn't leave. We have everything we need right here.
Anyone who has a grandfather remember he is a precious gift from God.That kind of knowlegde can't come from a book, college, movies or the world wide web.Soak it up!
I don't get it. Were you talking about your father-in-law or your grandfather. And your point being...?
I was talking about my father in law being a grandparent to my children.
I did not have a grandfather and i thank God my kids have one with that many years of wisdom under his belt to give them. If it were a mastercard commericial it would say years of knowledge on everything you could ask ....priceless....
Do you have someone you can say that about?
Grandparents are absolutely priceless. My grandfather and I were always incredibly close. When I was a child, I spent a majority of each summer out on the truck with him. Those are memories I will cherish forever.
He died on August 9th of this year and not a day goes by that I do not miss him. And I will never forget the last time I saw him. He made a point to tell me how very proud of my sister and myself that he is and like all those memories before, I will cherish that conversation for the rest of my life.
I am so happy to hear that your children will get to experience life with a grandfather.
Someone once said that everytime an elderly person dies, it's as if an entire library had burned.... that is so very true. I have learned so much about my history, the history of our country, and the rest of the world since going to work as a CNA with the elderly. The memories they have of life 70, 80 years ago is amazing.
"We don't receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us." -Marcel Proust
My grandfather died when I was first married. As I said I didn't get to talk to him much and I watched my mom bring him to her house. He had gone blind. He was so depressed he didn't pick his head off. I believe if he had been surrounded by loved ones and known he was loved he would have been so much better. He died of metabolic acid poison from nursing home neglect.
I tried to get my mother in law to write down her thoughts for our daughters before she passed on. She was so close to our oldest daughter.She would have loved priceless advice from her,she wasn't much of a writer and I bugged her too much I guess.
I plan on picking my father in law's brain when he is able so we can have his wisdom for many years to come. Kind of like solution to life's problems book. Wouldn't that be cool?
Your profession is a priceless asset both to them and to you. We send nursing home things for christmas do you have any ideas on what they need? Thank you!
Colognes (perfume), shower gels, powders and things of that nature are always appreciated. As are books, crafts, clothes (especially socks... those always disappear) and shoes.
I'm sorry that your grandfather died from nursing home neglect. That is always so heart breaking to hear.
I am, however, thrilled that you still donate to nursing homes. So many people simply don't donate to nursing homes because of the bad things they hear. The majority of people that work in nursing homes are wonderful people. Sadly, however, even one bad nurse, aid, etc can ruin the entire nursing home and put every resident in serious danger. I hate that so many people only think of nursing homes negatively and rarely ever seriously think about the thousands of treasures that would love nothing more than for a visitor to stop and say hello.
"We don't receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us." -Marcel Proust
Last year we sewed lap blankets.I thought bibs(adult size) would be good too. The powders and lotions sound like things people need to feel appreciated. Thank you for the tip.
The reason my grandfather died was because when be became blind he became very angry and was losing his mind I believe. They were puting the water in front of him but he threw it back at them from what I had heard. I wasn't there. I was extremely sad and angry over the whole thing. No one has the story.
I know there are wonderful nurses there. Thank God for them.
My grandfather died when I was first married. As I said I didn't get to talk to him much and I watched my mom bring him to her house. He had gone blind. He was so depressed he didn't pick his head off. I believe if he had been surrounded by loved ones and known he was loved he would have been so much better. He died of metabolic acid poison from nursing home neglect.
I tried to get my mother in law to write down her thoughts for our daughters before she passed on. She was so close to our oldest daughter.She would have loved priceless advice from her,she wasn't much of a writer and I bugged her too much I guess.
I plan on picking my father in law's brain when he is able so we can have his wisdom for many years to come. Kind of like solution to life's problems book. Wouldn't that be cool?
Your profession is a priceless asset both to them and to you. We send nursing home things for christmas do you have any ideas on what they need? Thank you!