So, you know what, I thought about something today. One of my pet peeves is adults, they talk about love, and when I say that I know what they're talking about, because I have loved MANY times, they tell me I have no idea what love is. Ok, so I have to keep in mind that if these people are saying that they truely don't know me. I have loved on many deeper levels than most people my age. That's just how I am. I have been hurt so deeply that I almost can't be in a relationship unless I actually feel like I love the person. Which means it has to be a friend, not just some random person. I have loved two guys in my life, I will not deny it no matter how many adults try to tell me that's impossible. I know with the first because even more than a year has passed, and I still know I loved him, I don't doubt it. And with the second, I continue to fight for him even when things seem hopeless, I'm still fighting. Even when I'm on the edge of giving up, I can't. I have to be with him. There is something more with him.
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I actually have an idea how you feel. Adults don't understand the "youths of today" as we are so affectionately labelled. I've fallen for 2 guys, and unfortunately never dated either. Both were friends of mine and I couldn't stand being around them and I didn't want to be the first to make a move so I did what I thought was best for me, I moved away. The first guy I went to high school with and the second I worked with. I was friends with both, and we all know that can be the kiss of death. The first went away for college and I moved away from the second, so I have emotionally speaking been "in love" but I'd prefer to say that those were lapses in judgement. I start rambling on there for awhile, but I do get it, when you say you've been in love and adults just don't understand. It's frustrating because they truly believe they know everything, but they don't understand anything.
I don't know, it's just so weird, maybe adults just have a different idea of love than we do now? Or maybe teens love easier than they did when they were kids? Who knows.
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I hate it when adults tell you that you have no idea how something feels, and that you won't know it till you're their age. They forget that we have struggles and pain, too.
I'm also a teenager. But I wouldn't say you should just completely ignore what all adults say. Yes, they forget what its like to be a teenager. And yes, some teenagers have been in love, true love. Some adults fell in love when they were teenagers, and yet they still say we're incapable. So I guess my point is, try to cut the adults a little slack. They tend to forget things at times. However, being in love is not a paltry thing. I'm guessing everyone who's commented here knows this. It is more like what TressaE described. Its not that teenagers in this generation fall in love easier. Love is a more prominent word maybe, but the meaning is totally twisted in so many cases. So again, my point is basically, don't make such sweeping comments unless they include the admition that there are exceptions. Like, I could say that the majority of teens today don't know the meaning of true love (which I think is true). But I would admit that there are most definitely exceptions, just as there are exceptions for almost any standard.
I wouldn't doubt that you know just as much about love as anyone else. I guess the only thing an adult has on you is time and experience.
What makes me so sad is the fact that you loved both of them. If I was the second guy, I would feel like I was getting a left over heart.
Probably adults say that you don't know love because at one time they were where you were and they loved the first, second, and third. After awhile they just got tired out, and gave up on the youthful love and substituted a beat up and bruised realism which naturally despises the young, strong, and hopeful love.
I suppose what the second could have could be left over. But it seems so much stronger than the first. Him and I have been through so much together. Both of us have loved before each other, we both know that. There's something about it, hard to explain, it's more than my first, he seems to care a lot more, and we share a lot more together. We have fights, but they are quickly forgiven and we work through them. It's amazing.
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You can love more than one person. Look at people who get divorced and remarry. They loved their spouses at one time and on some deeper level still do, they just couldn't be around them anymore for whatever reason. People love their families, it's a differnet sort of love, I know, but it is more than one person. There is room in the heart for a multitude of people. Souls mates don't exist and true love you have to create. Love is a funny thing and no one can explain it, but you can love more than once in your life. Most people love many times as a matter of fact.
After reading through everything, I have to agree that teens fall in love a lot easier, but are they falling in love easier or are they just using the word more freely? I feel that people, not adults and not teens, PEOPLE tend to use the word love more freely; it has lost it's meaning. I can say that I have never been in love, I have thought it a few times, and who knows I may be now, but saving the word for the right person makes it all the more meaning full when you can say that you have never said it to any but the person that you actually love. If you have dated 10 guys and you have said I LOVE YOU to all of them...who's to say that the 11, who may be the one you marry, is going to believe you when you say it!?! I guess my point is that you've said it before and who's to say that this guys not going to be the last....Just think about it a little more before you throw it around like nothing:)
I think that it is possible for teens to fall in love. However, I do not believe that it is ever a full and complete love. It is possible for them to have that sort of love, but it doesn't happen often. Love can be strong and still not be a complete and true love. This can only be reached with time and experience.
Adults do need to understand that us teens do feel love. It might not be the way they feel it, but we still do. They just have had more experience in the field then we have.
Some times I wonder if teenagers fall in love to easily. We claim it happens often, but most of them seem to be an infatuation rather then a realistic and true love. A surge of passion. A long lasting relationship can stem from this surge of romantic passion but perhaps us teens think that's the only way for it to happen. We just need to abe warry of the different ways relationships start. Don't put it in a box. Love can come in any way. Each individual will probably find it differently.
Don't dissregaurd what adults say. Perhaps we should begin asking adults for their advice on love. They could have some valuble things to teach us.
-TiminatorO