When the issue of sex comes upin a high school class room, everyone seems to tense up a bit. The girls all turn and give dirty looks at the whores, and the guys all turn around and high five the playas. Is that fair at all?
If you're a girl in high school and you refuse to do anything sexual with guys, then you're a prude bitch. If you're a girl in high school and you do anything sexual with anyone, even if it is your long time boyfrined, then you're a whore.
But if you're a guy in high school and you get a girl to go past second base your a playa, bonus points if she's not your girlfriend. If you're a guy in high school and your a virgin, you're a loser, even to the girls.
How did our views on sex get so messed up? I thought sex was suppossed to be a beautiful thing between two people who were in love? So if you decide to stay a virgin, isn't that your choice, shouldn't that be repected by your peers? Okay, so what if sex is pleasurable and people go around having sex with people who they aren't in a relationship with? Isn't that their choice too? And quite honestly if the person sitting next to you in your AP American History is a virgin or a whore is none of your buisness. When did sex become such a public thing? I think we should all just mind our own buisness and respect other peoples choices.
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I know what you mean and I totally agree. But it's not just in high school. The same things happens no matter what age you are. It's just pure stupidity.
I used to say this all the time. The base of this idea is that students are having sex willy-nilly. Except in certain cliques, the majority of people under the age twenty have not had intercourse....
In those circles where sex is being had though, this double standard exists. The biggest reason for this is that responsibility for having or not having sex has been placed on girls. Mostly because of the very very incorrect view that females have little or no instinctual desire for sex especially in comparison to males. As a result, a female who has consented to sex is seen a giving something up that shouldn't or seen as weaker. Whereas thanks to the view mentioned above have used smarts and cunning to get what they want from a girl. These are not obvious or discussed, but that is essentially what is happening.
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"Jesus take the wheeeeel!"
"I'm not sure she really understands how it works..."
I think that it is none of our business knowing if someone is a virgin or not... Most people are curious and like gossip. I think it is good to know though to help protect against diseases and stuff because the more times someone has sex and/or different people creates a higher risk.
In many high schools, if you slept with anybody, the word "slut" or "whore" along with your name would most likely be passed around in that locker room talk. I think it's pretty stupid, since most people seriously think that a non-virgin = whore, even if she slept with her boyfriend. It's as if people don't understand what the word "whore" really means.
Though, living in America, I don't agree that we're too public about our sex lives. I think we're a little too prude about it and don't embrace the beauty of it as much.
If the guys didnt high five each other and the girls didnt give dirty looks to the sexually active girls, then how would you know who to associate yourself with. In High School everyone wants there form of popularity. To be considered cool in the eyes of others. Quality in friends is better than quantity of acquaintinces. let them all be. Find the guy you want to be with and not worry what the others say or do. It will all be over soon and your discretion of people will only get better. Some people have to be bad so you know who the good ones are.