When I tell people that I am engaged many just stare in dis-belief or just refuse to accept the decision that i have made in life to be 18 and engaged. My mom and step father are supportive to the extent that they wont stop me from leaving the small town I grew up in to follow my fiance, who is in the air force and at basic training, to wherever he gets stationed. However most people think I'm absolutely crazy. Teachers are the first people to judge my choice seeing as how I have always been the college bound honor student. The first thought that pops into their heads is that I'm going to give up my dreams of becoming a paramedic, and trauma nurse, and just become a military spouse, however they couldn't be anymore wrong. Growing up in a family who didnt have a lot of money and for a period of time was wondering how to put food on the table taught me one thing in life, to be able to support myself before I need to support anyone else. Keyword there need. My choice to be engaged to someone so young is a want not a need, I dont feel as if I need my fiance' there to provide financial support, or as someone who is going to be my soul provider for anything. I know that I will be able to take care of many things on my own. As I have said my choice is a want, I want my fiance' to be there to support me in my emotional, and physical battles that my future job and schooling will provide. My fiance' is way more than a meal ticket, actually he isn't even that. My fiance' is my best friend and the one person I know will always support my decisions in life, and the one person I can count on for anyting. I think of it this way, life is supposed to make you happy, and to be happy many need to be succesful, and some of lifes greatest success' are only made more enjoyable when shared with someone else. So being, a college bound, goal orientated, fiance' to a military man. Is being engaged so young truly a bad thing or are those who think I'm crazy just blowing this engagement way out of proportion?
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The one problem with getting engaged early is everyone gets in such a rush to get married. Honestly, if you two love each other wait untill you are financially set enough to have the wedding of your dreams. You have the whole rest of your lives to get married, take time now to get ready for it...
And congratulations.
My mom got married when she was 18, 41 years ago. Dad was in the Navy and mom stayed home to raise myself an my older brother. If getting married is what you truly then just realize that there will be good time and bad. Give it your all and all will turn out good.
There is a similar blog from today:
Married Young
Personally, I think that young people like us haven't really become ourselves yet. We're going to change and mature and want different things out of life, and that may not coincide with a spouse. I wish the best of luck to you and your fiance, but know that the odds are against you. Another concern is that a lot of the difficulties of marriage are raised when you are so young (finances, running a home, etc.)
I can see this issue from both points of view. You want to be with your fiance, but your acquaintances don't want you to give up your dreams for him. My only advice to you is to make sure not to forget about your life. The AF is a dangerous career path, and you have to make sure you can support yourself if anything changes with your fiance. Good luck!