I am a 17 year old girl that will be turning 18 very soon. Out of 18 years of my life I haven’t seen or heard from my mom except for once. No birthdays wishes, no Christmas gifts… she wasn’t even there to help me when I came into woman-hood. (Excuse me ladies and gentlemen). But even though this woman that was supposed to be my mother has never been around, I still love her. My grandma, who raised me, told me that I should forgive her because she will have to be judged by the Lord. As I said, I love her, but should I? I had to watch all the kids be with their parents throughout the years every day of my life. It hurt. She didn’t even stop after me, she kept going and had four other kids. To put a twist on it all, I’m the only mixed child she has AND the only child she didn’t keep. So now should I forgive her? It’s not right to hold grudges, but that is something so hard to let go. I feel that if women don’t want the responsibility of ANY child they shouldn’t open their legs. Your two legs… your decision. She even tried to abort me, but my dad wouldn’t let her. To me that shouldn’t even be an option unless your health is at risk. You had the baby, you take care of it. Make ends meet. It’s plenty of mothers out there struggling because things didn’t go as planned, but they dealt with it. Is it “if you gap your legs open it’s your life” or “if you gap your legs open it’s your decision to decide someone else’s life”?
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But in all reality your mother doesn't deserve the gift of your love. I understand what you mean though and I totally agree that if someone doesn't want a child they should keep their legs closed! Or go on birth control. I was 18 when i lost my mom, but I know it is different for you.
This makes you stronger though and one day you could say " I never needed you either mom."
http://www.progressiveu.org/032913-lupus-uncureable-wait-what
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